It sounds like you don’t know this guy very well yet since you’ve just started dating him, so there’s not the big commitment you might have if you’d been dating for some time. Sometimes things go really well in the beginning before one or both of you have a chance to reflect on whether or not you want to continue — and that may be what’s happening. Also, this guy has a very demanding job schedule, and he’s a lot more busy now that he has this job than when you first started dating.
Your ideas that a relationship should come first and should have a certain flavor aren’t universal — not everyone thinks the same way you do. In fact, if he’s got a good job right out of college and he’s committed to it, that’s an asset to who he is! I know you see it as an obstacle, but it’s part of who he is right now. Decide if you want to date someone with a demanding schedule. (You have a choice! 😉 )
It also sounds like the honeymoon period may be fading away and he’s got other priorities. Rather than complain about the time you get to spend with him, instead, my advice is to make that time together so terrific and make yourself so alluring, that he’ll WANT to spend more time with you — rather than you wanting him to want to spend more time with you. 😉
Let me know how things go!
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