[Anonymous]

Dear Love Doctor,

I am having problems dealing with my situation. This girl facebook chatted me randomly one day. We began to become friends. Talked everyday through text message. Then we began to call each other and talk on the phone. This girl asked if i liked her. And she got the vibe i was talking to her just because i was bored. It was somewhat true, but as time progressed i started to really like her. As her liking for me decreased slightly. We have only hung out one time just me and her also. So its basically an emotional connection which i love.
She texts me one morning saying i did something bad last night. She ended up having sex with this other kid. I was mad but i continued to talk to her. As she began to talk to this kid but just as friends kinda. This went on for about 3 weeks. And she felt conflicted over choosing the right guy. She knows i am more the relationship type and id be a great boyfriend. But also the kid she had sex with doesnt know, me and her talk. Which put me in a bad spot because i was pressuring her kind of. She ended up telling me one day. I cant do this to myself, We’ll talk someday. I continued to be friends with her and she would randomly send me texts saying i miss you and stuff. The other day i just couldnt take it anymore and i said dont talk to me, and i deleted her number and facebook. She responded by saying im fine that we dont talk. But i still like her. I also have a strong gut feeling that she will break up with him soon, and a part of me wants to be there to pick her up. But this is where i need advice. Should i try to be friends with her again but just not talk to her as much. That would may make me look weak and still like her because this happened 5 days ago but dont wanna let her go. Should i just never talk to her again? any help is much appreciated
Thank you

[Ask April Masini]

Boy, are you ever right! Nice guys do finish last. So quit being one, if you want to win over the girl. 😉 I’m not saying you should turn yourself into Charlie Manson, but don’t be so available. Make yourself seem more like a catch to her, and trust me, she’ll find herself being a lot more interested! Women don’t really want the easy to get guys. They want the guys who are confident, funny and successful. They want men who aren’t necessarily interested in them!

I know you think you’re doing the right thing by being just friends with her, but that’s not the way to capture her true interest. She wants you to come on like a boyfriend, not just a friend. Ask her out on a date, and be the man who isn’t interested in being the back up guy she tells who she’s sleeping with to. 😕 Don’t settle for being less than any woman’s main man.

You’d do well to read my book written for men who want to get the girl. It’s called Date Out of Your League, and it will help you move from nice guy, the guy who the girl wants! You can download it here. [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url] I hope that helps — let me know how things go! 🙂

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