[Anonymous]

So there’s a girl that I have liked on numerous occasions, and she has liked me as well numerous times.. however, the timing is never right. We’ve been part of the same group of friends for about 6 years. Some people might call it Oneitis, but I don’t think it’s that considering I have moved on and dated other girls and went through times where she wasn’t even close to being on my mind.

At the moment, I’m single and she’s not. Within the past 6 months (since the last time there was anything b/w us), I’ve ‘seen’ two different girls, each for about a month but neither one lasted. I won’t give great details, but trust me I wasn’t ending it with those girls for no good reason.

So her and I hadn’t talked for about 4 months when all of a sudden a couple months ago she texted me and said how bad she felt for not keeping in touch, etc. Since then we’ve been talking maybe once every 2 week. Awhile ago I hungout with her and a girl we’re both friends with one afternoon. Shortly afterwards, our friend told me that the girl said she felt bad for not deciding to be with me the last time I had feelings and that she wishes she would’ve given things a chance.

So now I don’t know what to do. Was she hoping that I would find out and attempt to wheel her? Should I try and spark things up again? Currently we aren’t in the same city b/c I moved to go to College, but she’ll be moving here soon.Like I said, right now she is in a relationship (for about 6 months) but after she moves he’ll be a few hours away and I know she isn’t a fan of long-distance.

I’m not gonna put my game on hold and just wait for her, but I’m wondering if you guys think I should maybe try and spark things up?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

There’s no reason to spark things up when you can’t date her because she lives too far away, so wait until she lives in your city since you say she’s moving there soon and see if she’s available to date you then. 🙂

[Anonymous]

I was kind of thinking the same thing, although it will only be a couple of months until we’re in the same city. Also, I’m gonna be in her city about 3 or 4 times before she moves and she has told me I have to call her. Should I use those 3 or 4 hangout sessions to get a better idea if she really likes me? Maybe I could do some light flirting and see what happens?

Thanks btw!! 😀

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Don’t hang out. Ask her out on dates. If you’re going to see her three or four times prior to her moving here, use those three or four times to ask her on dates, to date her and see if there’s anything there worth pursuing.

Hanging out is confusing you and probably her, too. Invite her to dinner or a movie so there’s no mistaking this is a date. 🙂

[Anonymous]

Wow great point lol. Thanks

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Good luck! 😀

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