[Anonymous]

So I met this guy at a club one night and we hit it off. I wasn’t planning on seeing him after but he was blowing up my cell phone saying he wanted to see me and what not. So when he picked me up in his car we drove around for a bit before we found a place to park and hang out. What I found weird was that he was very open from the beginning and began to tell me about his family, and his relationships with his mother, father and brothers, regardless of whether they were good or bad, he was very open to me. We fooled around but didn’t have sex and I was fine with that but I assumed he wouldn’t talk to me again (that’s just the way those late night hookups work). Except the whole next day he was texting my phone and he was asking if I wanted to go to the spa with him and whether I was going out again that night. Later that night I was out with my girls and he had his own plans but we ran into each other downtown and then we parted ways because my girls did not want to hang out with his friend if I was to hang with him. As soon as I got back to my room he was texting me again and saying he wished he could see me. But would only come to my place if ‘I wanted too’, he ended up coming over and we got to fooling around. I had condoms at my place and joked about the night before how he didn’t have any, and he told me he doesn’t usually do ‘one night stands’ and I was a little confused. After the deed I assumed we would just fall asleep but he began talking to me about his past relationships. He had just broken it off with his girlfriend of 6 years, two months previous, and he also brought up his previous girlfriend. After he shared all that with me, he turned to me and asked about me. I was actually at the end of my rope with my current bf and he got me telling him how I was ready to break it off. But he argued with me saying relationships aren’t hard work and my bf deserves to know why I am frustrated and mad and I just can’t leave him in the dirt. I understood what he was saying but he was saying it very passionately and understandingly. Anyways we stayed up all night talking about this and in the morning we went out separate ways. But he continued texting me that night and the next day. I was going home for the summer though and he lives 18 hours away from my school town (my summer home is 8 hours from there, so from where I am currently it is about 26hours drive). He continues to text me and wanted to make sure I told my bf everything (we are broken up now). What I am curious about is what he wants from me, because he seems to text me to talk, but he never really brings up ‘conversation’. And if I don’t reply because I don’t know what to say, (this has happened 3 times) he will send a duplicate or a ‘?’ mark. Also I’ve been contemplating adding him on facebook but I wasn’t sure. So for the past while or so I have been on his profile questioning whether I should or not. But today when I went on I realized he had blocked me from facebook, which doesn’t make sense to me since we were texting last night. I would just like to know what he is thinking because I have never felt more confused from a guy before. He seems to want to talk, but doesn’t start conversation, and he easily opened up to me about his life while most people are still guarded when they’ve only known someone a couple hours. Also information you should know is that I am 19, while he will be 25 in November. Can anyone explain this behavior to me?

Thanks.

[ankit]

This behavior is so stupid . This is definitely not a one night stand coz if it was ,then after that he would never had text you . But as in this case he always text you .Ask her about what he wants .This behavior is so unpredictable . Don’t make guesses , be straight forward .

[kai]

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[VixenGEM]

Well I can understand your frustration firstly in all that he is doing by texting you the fact of blocking you from facebook is very suspicious and you should open another profile under an alias and see what he has to hide.I believe that once you do that everything will be come clear immediately.All the best.

[Ask April Masini]

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