[b]Thank you for your help in my situation with improving passion in our relationship [/b]
Please read if you want to know the past:
(https://www.askapril.com/forums/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=243323)
The passion just instantly increased after our first convo and we implemented a few things from your program. It was like magic, just talking about it made it work again. Sex increased. Holding hands. KISSING. Surprises. Could have to do it was v-day and his birthday short after but here I am again, back to serious place in a relationship where I can honestly say now IS ON THE ROCKS and there is little to no passion.
We had another convo last night about passion and what seems to have happened this time. We agreed that last time we discussed it, it fixed itself for a little, but now we are back. He seems unsure, but I think it has to do with the fact that he thinks we are such different people. To be specific, he thinks we are two very different people one way because I’m a little messy, and he is almost OCD clean. This is something almost impossible to change *(unless you have insight). The other difference he listed was that I have a hard time saying no to people. Mostly to friends with family (which is TRUE and something I NEED to work on). Him dwelling on these differences have decreased his passion for me, is that a logical assumption? If so, How can we fix it?
Another detail is that lately he is off his mission with work. He asked for a raise, and instead he got rejected, and now he expected to do more work (the work of two people). After this happened it took 2 days for him to talk about it with me because he was so angry about what happened. I mentioned the stress and disappointment and not knowing if he will ever get recognized for his hard work might be affecting his passion for us. He said maybe, but usually he can not let work affect his relationships.
Do we still have hope? We are talking about it again tonight. This time is promised not to get upset/cry and to logically discuss what is happening in our relationship because I can tell he wants it to work.
