[TJ1155]

Hi, so I have been talking to this girl for about a month I am 21 and she is 19 both in college. I really liked this girl and we started to hang out and talk more and more as the weeks went on. When we hung out i thought it alway went went good. Well last week we i thought it turned to the next level cus we starting texting/calling each other just about everyday just to see how thier day was and whats going on. the convos were great each participating and talking… On a side not last thursday when we went out to the bar she was all touchy feely with me and told my roomates that she is waiting for me to make the first move and all.

Well I wanted to show her i cared so i offically asked her out on a date to a nice resturant. She coudlnt come cus she got sick which is true but wanted to see me in a couple days. She texted me that she wanted me to come over to her house and meet her parents on Friday. I went over there and met her parents it went well even though she wasn’t feel 100% yet. she has talked to her parents about me cus they suggested we should go to her sisters game as a date would be really cute.. Well I thought in my mind this is working out and were going in the right direction. She texted me a couple times she can’t wait to see me and what not..

So this is where it gets weird/confusing. I texted her saturday to see if she was feeling better and maybe go out for drinks if she was. she responded 4 hrs later saying she was busy at work and then church, but asked how my day was. I responded but she didnt text back which I thought was odd.. I did not text her sunday and she didn’t text me. Monday, I texted her seeing how she was and what not. She respond which got me thinking alright its better so i responded to her and then again she gives NO response after that. Yesterday i didn’t text her at all and she didn’t to me and today was the exact same i didn’t text/call her and she didn’t to me…

so I’m really confused with what was going on. So my question what should I do? Just out of the blue she kinda stopped talking to me after it was going so well. I want to know wha the deal is but not sound desperate. I was told by a buddy’s gf to not text her at all anymore see if she comes to me so i decided to do that… Is it right? i just want to know whats the deal is good or bad… I let my guard down with her so I’m just kinda hurt and really confused. Is she not interested anymore or is she tyring to play hard to get?
Thanks, TJ
ps sorry for it being a long story lol

[Anonymous]

You texted her twice — two days apart. She responded both times. If she wasn’t interested, I doubt that she would have responded. Also, she didn’t have to ask you to meet her family, especially recovering from illness. That indicates she is interested in getting to know you better. And you likewise, are interested in getting to know her better. Neither of you really know the other person very well at this point. So I wouldn’t jump to conclusions. The fact that she did not continue to text with you after your response text doesn’t necessarily mean she isn’t interested. You are right not to bombard her with texts. That was good. Now, give her a call and ask her out again — by phone so you can hear each other’s voices — not by text. It’s good practice to ask someone out, whatever happens with this particular person. You get to flex your guy muscles and work on that guy-fear-of-rejection-thing. Remember you were a whole person before you two started getting to know each other. Whatever happens here, you will still be that person. If she says yes, great; if not, listen to her reason and decide if you want to try again. Keep it simple and try not to assume anything until you know for sure if she is interested or not. Text-interpretation can be really tricky. 😕

[AskApril Masini]

[b]Chiara[/b] gave you great advice! In this media age, it’s good to mix up your mediums! Texting is great, but now you need to get a date to move things to the next level. Call her and ask her on a date. Stop calling and texting to see how she is — until after you get a date with her. Making yourself too available isn’t sexy. Women like men who are hard to get, so balance getting a date with not being too available otherwise.

Then, let me know how it goes!

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