I met my boyfriend in my senior year of highschool and I was immediately attracted to him. We got to know eachother and saw eachother every single day during summer. I fell for him harder than anyone and I felt like I just knew we were supposed to be together.a couple months later he ended up getting into somethings and told me that we couldn’t be together even though he wanted to because he needed to straighten him self out.
This was the last thing I wanted, but accepted it to later find out that a few months later he was with someone else. For a year, I thought of him every single day. I was in love with him and wanted to tell him for so long, but I was afraid of getting hurt. Finally I just gave up and figured we would never be together again and I needed to get over it. So, I started to date someone and we were together for about six months. When my current boyfriend found out about this guy he was doing everything he could to get my attention, which I didn’t understand because he had acted like he didn’t care for so long.
Long story short, we ended up getting back together. All my feelings came back and I was head over heals, we both were. We have now been together for a year and a half and it’s like he’s a different person now.
I am in college and he works. We live together on top of it and I don’t feel like he’s the person I fell in love with. He is always talking about our future together and all the things we will have. That’s all great but thats not all I am looking for in man. He’s so focused on work he’s forgetting about me and it’s already like we are married. I cook I clean, we go to all family parties together, rarely hang out with friends any more…It’s always just me and him, which would be fine if we weren’t always just sitting in our apartment. He never takes me anywhere anymore never surprises me or does anything to make me feel special. And it’s the simplest things, I am not asking for much. For example I ve never been iceskating before and have always wanted to go. He promised me two years ago we would go. This is with anything that I ever want to do. I am and adventurous creative person and I am happy with just taking a walk together.
When it comes to intimacy he’s extremley selfish and once he’s done WE”RE done..which gets to be VERY frusterating.
Now in less than a month my best friend and I are getting a place and he was going to move in but I’ve been heavily debating whether or not I want him living there. I feel held back on so much and I dont know if i can take it anymore. Please help 🙁
