[SherbetMoon]

Okay so here is the story,
I am in college. When I moved in there was this one guy who helped me and we really hit it off. We have been seeing each other for a couple of months. Right from the start he told me that he wasn’t ready for any kind of commitment, but he didn’t want me for just sex, he actually liked being with me. He is extremely busy, he has a full time job, he’s an RA, has an internship, and is trying to graduate top of his class. I was okay with the situation because I knew he was really too busy for anything. He never pressured me into sex, so I’m pretty sure that he was truthful about that. We would see each other for generally only a few hours every/ every other week.

So recently, two weeks before finals, he seemed to have a mental breakdown. He told me that he couldn’t see me anymore because he was too attracted to me. He said that I am all that he can think about all week and he can’t afford the distraction right now. He told me that he doesn’t never want to see me again and this doesn’t mean that we wont ever be together in the future.

I really like this guy and I think that he is perfect for me. He is everything that I am looking for. So, my questions are
1) Does this sound like a line to just get rid of me or does it sound like he’s being truthful?
2)Do you think he is just scared because he likes me too much?
3) Should I keep in contact with him? (ie- Wish him good luck on his finals, etc.) Im scared that if I dont keep some contact he will just forget about me.

What do I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]1) Does this sound like a line to just get rid of me or does it sound like he’s being truthful?
2)Do you think he is just scared because he likes me too much?
3) Should I keep in contact with him? (ie- Wish him good luck on his finals, etc.) Im scared that if I dont keep some contact he will just forget about me.

What do I do?[/quote]

1. I don’t think it’s a line. I think he’s being truthful. But if it is a line, he’s giving it to you because he doesn’t want to see you. Either way, he’s telling you he doesn’t want to see you. 😳

2. No, I don’t think he’s scared.

3. I don’t think you should go out of your way to contact him when he’s asked you not to. I know you’re afraid that he’ll forget about you, but that’s what he seems to be trying to do. 😳 I know you don’t want the break up and he does, and that’s always going to hurt, but the best thing you can do is to move on with your life.

You’ll meet lots of other guys in college and if he thinks he’s made a mistake, he can come after you. If he doesn’t, then you were right to move on.

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