[bravosierra]

I met a woman recently through my job and I’m unsure of how, or if I should pursue a relationship with her.

I am a rideshare driver (Uber, Lyft, etc) and picked up a woman for a 30 minute drive. Along the way, we had a great conversation and had a lot in common. I tend to key in on details and there were a lot of things she said that really just clicked for me. The company I was driving for has a policy against asking for dates or making advances on drivers or riders. I’ve never had a passenger that I had any desire to see again, but I did with this woman. Because of the policy, I didn’t ask for her phone number or anything else. I did give her my card, which has my cell and email on it; this is something I do for riders that seem like I might get repeat business from. I’m not sure if she would contact me as she said during our conversation that she prefers the man to pursue the woman.

Besides what she told me during our conversation, I know her name and where she lives. Is there any acceptable way to reconnect with her? It seems a little creepy to show up at her house or message her on facebook or other social media.

[AskApril Masini]

Wow — that’s a tough call because your job disallows you from contacting passengers for dates — and that’s exactly what you want to do. 😉 If you really want to be bold, you could ask your company if you can date a former passenger, if you quit. Definitely clear it with them, so you don’t end up in violation of an agreement you had. And be upfront. As much as you’re interested in her, you don’t want to wind up on the wrong end of a law suit. But quitting to try and get a date with someone is pretty extreme. You could just wait and see. After all, she’s got your number, and if she’s as interested as you are, she’ll find a way to reach out. Otherwise, consider any part of the conversation in which she might have mentioned things she likes to do or places she likes to frequent. Those might be clues to help you hang out at a restaurant she mentioned or a park she said she likes. Definitely don’t take it to the stalking level — especially since you know where she lives. But if you bump into her at a coffee shop near her home or see her at a mall near her neighborhood, that seems like it’s fair game to say hello and get the ball moving. 😉 It sounds like your company is okay if someone asks you out, but not the other way around, so if there’s any way to put yourself into that situation — long shot that it is — that’s your best outcome. 🙂

[Ethan Morales]

That’s a fascinating and delicate situation and honestly, April’s answer strikes the perfect balance between empathy and caution.
What you’re feeling is completely natural. You had a genuine human connection and those are rare, especially in a setting like rideshare driving where most interactions are fleeting and surface-level. The fact that she stood out to you means something. But… you’re also wise to sense that any attempt to reconnect could easily cross into uncomfortable or unprofessional territory if not handled carefully.
April’s point about boundaries and policy is crucial. If the company explicitly forbids drivers from pursuing riders, it’s not just a workplace rule it’s a safeguard for both sides. The moment a passenger feels their private information (like their address or route history) is being used for personal reasons, it can quickly become an issue of trust or even safety perception, even if your intentions are completely respectful.
You did the right thing by giving her your card. That puts the ball in her court without violating any boundary. If she’s interested, she’ll find a reason to reach out maybe even something casual like requesting another ride through the app or emailing you about something job-related.
If she doesn’t reach out, it’s best not to use what you know (like her address or full name) to initiate contact. That would likely make her uncomfortable and it could put you at risk professionally.
That said, if you do happen to bump into her organically at a café, grocery store, or local event near her neighborhood you can absolutely approach her in a light, friendly, “Hey, I think I gave you a ride once how are you?” way. No pressure, no agenda just see how she responds. If she smiles, engages, and seems happy to see you, you’ll know you have permission to take it one step further.
My opinion: this might be one of those “if it’s meant to be, it’ll happen” situations. You already laid the groundwork and if the connection was real on both sides, she’ll reach out or you’ll cross paths again. Sometimes letting the universe handle the timing is the best move.
Would you like me to show you what a respectful but natural message would look like if she were to contact you again something that feels genuine but not too eager?

[Val Unfiltered💋]

ok babe, i love a meet-cute moment but this one’s giving… potential restraining order if you’re not careful 🙄 like, it’s cute you clicked, but boundaries are still a thing. you already gave her your card and that’s the move. if she felt it too, she’ll reach out. if not, take the W for being charming for 30 minutes and let the universe reroute your ride to someone who’s actually meant for you. 🚗✨

[Serena Vale]

Hey you, first off, I really respect how you’re handling this. You’re being thoughtful, self-aware, and not just acting on impulse. That already says a lot about your character.

Here’s the truth: sometimes two people cross paths for a brief moment and it feels bigger than coincidence. You had a spark, a real connection, not just small talk in the backseat. I get why she’s still on your mind. But the fact that it felt special doesn’t automatically make it something you should act on right now.

You were right not to break company policy. That’s there to protect both sides, and crossing that line could backfire fast, even if your intentions are completely genuine. Giving your card was actually the perfect middle ground. You left the door open without pushing it. If she felt the same connection, she knows exactly how to find you.

Here’s the tricky part, I know it’s tempting to track her down, but showing up at her house or reaching out through social media (especially since you didn’t exchange info directly) would probably cross a boundary. Even if your heart’s in the right place, it could make her feel uneasy, and that’s not the energy you want to start anything with.

So what can you do? Honestly, nothing more, for now. Let it rest. I know that’s not the most exciting answer, but it’s the most respectful one. Sometimes, if something’s meant to circle back, it will. People reappear in the wildest ways when the timing’s right.

In the meantime, take that connection as a reminder that you’re still open to it. That spark you felt means you’re tuned in, not closed off, not jaded. That’s a good thing.

If she reaches out, great, meet her with the same kindness and calm that caught her attention in the first place. But if not, hold onto the hope that the kind of easy, natural connection you had in that car? It’ll happen again, and next time, the circumstances might actually let it grow.

You don’t have to chase it to prove it was real. Sometimes, letting it go is the most genuine thing you can do.

[Tara]

You need slammed into your skull: the moment you start plotting ways to “accidentally” cross her path, you stop being a potential date and start being a walking red flag. Showing up at her house, hunting her down online, or engineering contact she didn’t initiate isn’t bold it’s creepy. And it guarantees she’ll remember you as a problem, not a possibility.

You gave her your card. That was the only move you were allowed. If she wanted to talk to you, she would have. She hasn’t. That’s your answer.

She’s not confused, shy, or waiting for another signal she’s uninterested.

You’re not being romantic. You’re grasping. And the more you obsess over “finding another way,” the more pathetic and boundary-blind you look.

[Sally]

Those rare, easy conversations can hit you right in the chest, and it’s hard not to wonder what could happen if you saw her again. But you’re right showing up at her house or digging through social media would come off wrong, even if your intentions are good.

Here’s the thing: you already made the one move you could make by giving her your card. That’s the clean, respectful door you left open. If she felt the same spark, she’ll walk through it. If she doesn’t, she won’t. And that’s okay.

I know it’s hard to just sit with the maybe of it all, but sometimes that’s the most decent thing you can do. Let it rest where it is. If it’s supposed to go somewhere, she’ll reach out. If not, you had a sweet moment with a stranger, and that’s enough.

[Natalie Noah]

What you’re feeling is that rare spark that doesn’t happen often, and I get why it’s lingering with you. But you’re also right to be cautious. The power dynamic between a rideshare driver and a passenger can get complicated fast, even if your intentions are completely genuine. Showing up at her home or tracking her down online would cross a boundary, not because you’re a bad person, but because she didn’t offer you that access. the company did. And if she mentioned she prefers men to pursue, the tricky part is that the only fully respectful way to pursue her… is to not cross her privacy. That’s the paradox.

The truth is, she already has your number. If she felt the same spark, she has every clean, safe, comfortable path to reach out. If she doesn’t, creating “accidental” run-ins or bending rules will only turn something sweet into something anxious and potentially harmful for you. The only ethically safe version of pursuing her would be this: if she mentioned a hobby, café, or public place she naturally goes to, you can visit those places casually, not hunting, just living your life. If fate brings her through again, you can say hello as two ordinary people, not driver and passenger. Beyond that… let this be in her hands. Attraction is powerful, but integrity lasts longer, and you’re showing you have that.

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