[adil321]

What do I do? I have been told by a girl that she does not want to be best buddies with me as I’m not close enough to her and she does not want me contacting her every single day? what shall I do now? I really miss her but find it kind of hard to forget…

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First, let me know a couple of things, so I can advise you: For instance, what’s your history with this woman. How long have you known her, etc.? How old are you both? Why are you contacting her daily?

I’ll be happy to respond after I hear from you. 🙂

[adil321]

I’ve been talking to her for over a year now, and known her for a long time thats for sure lol…im 21, shes 22…and i don’t exactly know but I don’t feel good when I see her online occasionally and not contacting her even though I know its not necessary to do all the time..and she goes I say stupid things and repeat whatever she says and make dumb assumptions 🙁…hmm

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds, from what you wrote, that this is someone you know in real life and have for a long time, but you only talk to her online, and have done so for a year, but haven’t asked her out on a date. It sounds like she isn’t interested in you as a friend, and if you’re not friends, it isn’t appropriate for you to be contacting her daily. In fact, it’s probably becoming a nuisance.

I’m not sure why you haven’t asked her out on a date, but at this point, she doesn’t seem interested. My advice is to find someone who is. 😉

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[adil321]

yea I do know her in real life thats for a fact but she lives abroad, that makes it harder hence why I can only contact her online…and she isnt a person that would go on dates so that wouldnt work I just wanna be good friends or close again but I wanted your advice to see how too?…yea can tell she doesn’t want to but we were quite close before but like I said before because I started telling her everything she weren’t bothered any more and doesn’t care what I do now and then etc as she finds me annoying now…well to me I like to stick with one girl, but nothing seems to work at the moment beside not talking to her for a while but I really did hope she could forgive me and we could talk when she has time and not every day or week or so…hmm can’t you help out on getting her back to be good friends again

[April Masini, your AskApril]

One thing you can try is to not be so available. If you’re contacting her everyday, and she’s told you she’s not interested in friendship, you can imagine that she must be annoyed by the contact. Try contacting her once a month instead, and if she misses hearing from you, you’ll know because she’ll be very glad to hear from you. 😉

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[adil321]

yea, that’s what I have been doing trying my best not to go online too often, and trying my best to avoid contacting her at all its been a week so far since we last spoke…soo yea, I know she really was annoyed, that’s why I think she let it all out on me by the constant contacting…and thanks alot for your advice i’ll make sure if i want to i’ll contact her once in a while…lol how would I know she’s been missing me, I doubt it to be honest but lets see fingers crossed that she misses me, when I havent contacted her for a month.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re welcome. 🙂

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[adil321]

I just spoke to her after just over a week or so, she seems less irritated thats good news and is talking as normal writing little paragraphs to my response but I don’t see how she missed me lol..for example i spoke to her about the election etc she spoke abit in depth but was like were talking about america why??..i wrote why can’t we but she ignored it and left my response as it is lol…hmmm

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I suggested you wait a month to contact her. A week isn’t really going to give her an opportunity to miss you — especially if she feels you’ve become a nuisance. 😳

[adil321]

loll true say! yea i’m just going to ignore her completely from now, its not worth talking to her at the moment at all!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Good luck!

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