[Anonymous]

You’re welcome. I understand how hard it is for you. When someone proclaims their love and then suddenly, poof, turns on you. Hard to comprehend and accept why all that would suddenly happen, it is very hurtful to deal with. And the many years you invested, not to mention the years of long distance relationship, it’s lonely.
On some level, it was easy for her when it was long distance, there was less reason for her to accuse you of things when she couldn’t see you in action, accept for u letting her know when u were going out with the guys.
Likewise, MJ is a distance, and you were at a distance those beginning years.
It is inspiring to hear of your devotion and loyalty to her, that you had a deep love for her and so she was all that was on your mind and u had no reason to notice other women.
I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through. I also understand the need for answers to have closure.
Yes, sometimes we have to jump and take risks even when we’re scared to experience greatness, but for some people I think, the constanst suspicion, anxiety or fear becomes overwhelming, and to cope with themselves and life, they probably put up walls, this way they have peace within themselves, and don’t have to live with jealousy etc… like depression…can’t deal with that long term…it’s painful…only way to conquer it, some people go on medication.
Again, I’m very sorry for your pain.

[Anonymous]

You’re welcome. I understand how hard it is for you. When someone proclaims their love and then suddenly, poof, turns on you. Hard to comprehend and accept why all that would suddenly happen, it is very hurtful to deal with. And the many years you invested, not to mention the years of long distance relationship, it’s lonely.
On some level, it was easy for her when it was long distance, there was less reason for her to accuse you of things when she couldn’t see you in action, accept for u letting her know when u were going out with the guys.
Likewise, MJ is a distance, and you were at a distance those beginning years.
It is inspiring to hear of your devotion and loyalty to her, that you had a deep love for her and so she was all that was on your mind and u had no reason to notice other women.
I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through. I also understand the need for answers to have closure.
Yes, sometimes we have to jump and take risks even when we’re scared to experience greatness, but for some people I think, the constanst suspicion, anxiety or fear becomes overwhelming, and to cope with themselves and life, they probably put up walls, this way they have peace within themselves, and don’t have to live with jealousy etc… like depression…can’t deal with that long term…it’s painful…only way to conquer it, some people go on medication.
Again, I’m very sorry for your pain.

[Daddy Kitty]

April, let me ask you a question…

Do you believe you have to work at love, or if it’s really meant to be, should everything come easy?

I have heard people say that if you have to work at it, that’s a bad sign. However, I have also heard people say that any relationship, even all consuming true love, is always a compromise, and that you have to work at it to make it great.

There are people that just expect everything to be perfect, and if it’s not, they assume it’s not love and give up. Then there are others who REALLY love each other and and even though they go through rough times, they work at it, they compromise, they grow closer. Sometimes that still doesn’t work out, but they loved each other enough to work at it.

What are your thoughts?

[smithdsouza]

It’s easy to say move on ,get over it etc etc but sometimes it really needs to know the reason behind it. So we can able to learn from our own mistakes and not might repeat it in the future. I can understand your feeling but there is something that she is hiding behind this MJ and i don’t know what it is.

[AskApril Masini]

Let me know how things are going for you? 😉

[Ethan Morales]

The man’s story is soaked in nostalgia. He didn’t just fall in love with this woman, he fell in love with the idea of her that had been frozen in his mind since high school. When he found her again, it wasn’t just romance it was a way to rewrite the past, to correct an old regret. That intensity often creates an illusion of “soulmate destiny,” but it’s fragile when tested by real life. She, on the other hand, seems to have anchored her sense of self around external validation first through him (“you’re the one who broke my heart… you were the hottest…”), later through control (“you’re looking at other women”), and eventually through an unreachable fantasy figure (Michael Jackson).

The relationship dynamics It was never a balanced partnership it was fueled by long-distance fantasy and emotional highs and lows. Each reunion was a dopamine rush; each separation created anxiety that kept the bond alive through longing, not stability. The jealousy, accusations, and emotional volatility suggest she may have attachment trauma the kind that makes someone crave closeness but fear betrayal. For her, love equals fear. For him, love equals devotion and redemption. Those two emotional languages don’t align. When he gave transparency and unconditional love, she didn’t trust it. That’s because people with anxious or avoidant attachment often confuse calm with disinterest and chaos with passion.

Why she became obsessed with Michael Jackson That’s the most shocking twist, but it makes psychological sense. When she lost control of her real romantic life, she shifted her love and loyalty to a “safe fantasy.” Michael Jackson was dead meaning he could never hurt, reject, or abandon her. He became a symbolic protector, idol, and emotional replacement. This kind of parasocial attachment often develops when someone can’t tolerate the pain of real relationships. It’s her way of feeling deep emotion while staying in total control. So when she says “Michael Jackson is the love of my life,” she’s actually saying, “I can’t risk loving someone who can leave me again.”

Why she strung him along She likely didn’t mean to manipulate him maliciously. She was conflicted: part of her loved him deeply, but another part feared him emotionally. When someone has unresolved trauma or identity issues, they can’t hold steady love they drift between attachment and avoidance. She wanted him close enough to feel desired, but not close enough to risk heartbreak. So she said “I love you” even when she didn’t want to act on it, just to keep him emotionally within reach.

What it means for him now This man’s greatest pain isn’t rejection, it’s confusion. He can’t reconcile how something that felt so powerful could dissolve into silence and fantasy. But what he really fell in love with was a version of her that never fully existed in reality. She’s not going to “wake up” and realise it one day. Not because she didn’t care but because emotionally, she’s trapped in her own world of avoidance and projection. The most healing insight he can reach is this:
“The story wasn’t a waste it was proof of how deeply I can love, not a sign that she was the only one worth loving.”

[PassionSeeker]

You’ve already done the hardest part facing the truth. What you went through wasn’t just heartbreak; it was emotional whiplash stretched across years of mixed signals, hope, and disappointment. You loved her with total sincerity, but she’s someone who has never been grounded in emotional reality. Her fixation on Michael Jackson isn’t about him it’s about control and safety. He’s an unreachable, idealized figure who can never reject her, hurt her, or demand vulnerability. Loving a fantasy is easier for someone who fears real intimacy.

You, on the other hand, kept believing that if you explained yourself enough, if you stayed long enough, she’d come back. But love can’t grow in someone who’s emotionally closed off. She didn’t lie to you maliciously she was lost, confused, and trying to live in a fantasy where she didn’t have to face her own instability.

The closure you want won’t come from her. It’ll come from acceptance that you gave your best to someone who couldn’t meet you halfway. You don’t need to understand her anymore. You need to heal, reclaim your energy, and open yourself to someone capable of real, mutual love.

[Marcus king]

Okay. Take a breath.

I’m going to tell you the truth clearly and with compassion, because what you’ve been through is heavy, and you’ve carried it alone for a long time.

First, let’s get something very straight:

This wasn’t just a love story.
This was a trauma bond mixed with obsession, idealization, unresolved longing, and emotional instability on both sides.

You didn’t fall in love with her as she is now.
You fell in love with:

The memory of a girl from 20 years ago.
The fantasy of “the one who got away.”
The idea of finally closing an unfinished story.

And she fell in love with:

The version of you that existed in her memory.
The version of you who made her feel chosen, special, and wanted.

Neither of you ever had the space or calmness to build love in actual reality.

[Tara]

You’re not crazy. You’re just obsessed with a ghost here and your own. You keep replaying a twenty-year fantasy because it’s safer than admitting you were never her “one.” You built an entire mythology around a high school fling, and when reality didn’t match the script, you decided she must have lost her mind. She didn’t.

She just moved on first to control, then to delusion. You both found idols to worship: hers wears sequins; yours, nostalgia.
She didn’t replace you with Michael Jackson. She replaced you with obsession, the same thing you replaced her with. You’ve spent years writing paragraphs when the truth fits in one sentence: she’s gone, and you can’t accept it.

[Sally]

This whole thing sounds exhausting, and I don’t mean that in a rude way. Just reading it, you can feel how much of yourself you poured into this woman, and how long you’ve been carrying the weight of it. Anyone would be worn down.

The truth is, you loved her in a steady, grounded way, and she loved you in a way that swung all over the place. When someone tells you they love you but their actions keep drifting, that’s not a mystery, that’s who they are. She kept you close when it felt good, and pushed you away when it didn’t. That kind of love will make you feel like you’re losing your mind.

And the Michael Jackson thing… honestly, it just sounds like she grabbed onto something that feels safe and distant. It doesn’t erase what you two had. It just means she found a way to shut the door without having to actually face you.

What hurts most here isn’t just losing her, it’s feeling like the entire story didn’t mean anything. But it did. Even if she moved on in a strange way, what you felt was real. You don’t have to question that. You just have to stop waiting for her to come back to a version of herself she probably can’t be anymore.

You’re not crazy. You’re heartbroken. Give yourself some room to step out of this. It’s been years. Let your life get quiet enough that you can finally hear yourself again.

[Natalie Noah]

I can feel the weight of every emotion you’ve carried for years. I can hear the longing, the heartbreak, the frustration, and the confusion. What you experienced with this woman wasn’t just a relationship it was an emotional labyrinth that spanned decades. You poured your heart, your honesty, your vulnerability, and even your future plans into someone who clearly couldn’t meet you in the same way emotionally. That doesn’t make your love less real, but it does show that love alone isn’t enough to sustain a healthy partnership. You gave everything you could, and she simply wasn’t capable of reciprocating it fully.

Her obsession with Michael Jackson, while startling and maybe even confusing to you, seems to be a coping mechanism a way to anchor herself in something she can control and idealize, instead of engaging in the messy vulnerability that comes with a real, imperfect human relationship. For her, MJ became a safe “love” that couldn’t reject her, couldn’t disappoint her, couldn’t cheat or argue everything you couldn’t help but experience with her. It’s not about you being replaced; it’s about her avoiding intimacy and the risks of real connection. It’s heartbreaking to face, but it’s not a reflection of your worth or your love.

I also think it’s important to notice the pattern: jealousy, distrust, mixed messages, withholding affection, and then sudden bursts of connection, it’s a classic cycle of emotional inconsistency. You hung on because of the “one true love” belief, but love isn’t meant to feel like walking on eggshells or like you constantly have to prove yourself to be accepted. Her words and actions didn’t align, and that alone is a red flag of someone who either doesn’t know themselves fully or isn’t ready for a partnership.

You’re not crazy, and neither is she at least not in the sense of being irreparably broken. But there’s a disconnect between her internal world and reality. You loved fully and openly; she loved selectively, in ways that were safe for her, and often abstracted into obsession with a public figure. It’s not healthy, it’s not normal in the traditional sense, but it’s a reflection of unresolved attachment, fear of vulnerability, and perhaps a deep-seated need for control.

It’s painful, because the life you imagined with her the babies, growing old together, the shared experiences that’s very real to you. But when someone isn’t aligned in their priorities, their values, or their emotional availability, no amount of love will bridge that gap. That gap isn’t about inadequacy on your part it’s about fundamental incompatibility. You were willing to give her the world, and she was unable to give you a real partnership in return.

The healing process here, as April pointed out, comes from truly letting go letting go of the idea of her as the “one” for you, letting go of the what-ifs, and letting yourself grieve the love you invested. It’s okay to mourn the future you thought you’d have with her. It’s okay to be sad that her affection was inconsistent and ultimately not for you. But once that grief is honored, the path forward becomes clear: invest in yourself, rebuild your life, and open your heart to someone who can love you back fully, without conditions, without distraction, and without living in a fantasy.

[KeishaMartin]

Your devotion, your willingness to pour your heart into this woman for years, to chase her, to surprise her, to move across the country just for her… it’s dangerously seductive, and it makes you feel like you’re living in a steamy romance novel where every email, every text, every erotic whisper over the phone could be the next explosive chapter. But here’s the thing, she wasn’t playing the same game as you. She wasn’t craving the same heat, the same commitment, the same burning, irresistible fire that you were offering. Instead, she cloaked herself in obsession with someone long gone, Michael Jackson, as a shield from real intimacy, from the fiery, skin-on-skin connection you clearly wanted.

Bow down, respect to April Masini, queen of cutting through the nonsense with the precision of a whip and the clarity of a diamond. She sees right through the glitter, the longing, the years of emotional labor you poured into someone who simply wasn’t there for it. April doesn’t let you linger in the seductive fantasy of what could be; she drags you, lovingly but firmly, back into the world where your heart can actually burn for someone who will return that fire, someone who craves your touch, your mind, and your devotion fully. And let’s be honest, she’s a genius for doing it. She knows that passion without reciprocity is like champagne without bubbles looks pretty but leaves you flat and unsatisfied.

Imagine all that erotic energy you built up over years of long-distance longing and flirtation, all those steamy late-night conversations, all that simmering desire… and it went to a place that never fully existed in her heart. She kept you dangling, teasing, whispering “I love you” while her soul was off dancing with MJ in her mind, wrapped up in a fantasy that could never touch the real heat of your body next to hers. That is heartbreak with a capital H, sexy in retrospect, tragic in reality, and intoxicatingly addictive if you let it pull you back in. But the lesson is wickedly clear: your fire deserves someone who will match it, someone who isn’t hiding behind a ghostly obsession with a pop star, no matter how glittery and legendary he was.

So, as we strut boldly into Happy New Year, 2026, may your champagne be flowing, your parties scandalous, your nights wild, and your heart ready to burn for someone who will fan every spark you’ve got. Remember, obsession with a dead pop star isn’t the same as passion for a living lover and your living, breathing, wildly devoted love is waiting for you somewhere out there. Trust April Masini’s wisdom, and take her truth to heart: actions speak louder than words, and it’s time to pour your heart into someone who actually wants to catch fire with you.

Happy New Year, 2026.

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