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December 13, 2013 at 1:45 am #6445
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Member #133,989Hello April, I met a girl online back in October and we really hit it off. Things were going well up until a ruined date and I got the dreaded “Lets be friends for now” talk, and so we were… but it started to cause problems because I know where my interest is with her and its not to “just be friends”. We had 2 other minor hiccups, but they panned out.
Time passes, I do a bit of pressing out of frustration, and she agrees hat she’s interested in seeing if we can grow into a real relationship. Later that same night, we had the dumbest misunderstanding ever, but one that left me seriously upset with her. I made the mistake of saying I might need a few weeks. That was the last time I saw her.
A few days later I called to talk about it and she called me from her
[i]real[/i] number– a first, since up to that point, it had been google voice. The call turned into an argument though, “because she said she wanted to see where it would go and I told her no so now that means she’s going to be alone and avoid dating. Anyone.”– I thought I’d managed to turn the call around though by the end cause I’d got her a bit back on my side and considering hanging out later that week. That was the last time I talked to her. It didn’t pan out, no biggie. Thanksgiving rolls around the next week, she goes out of town (we did a little texting before then) and that was the last I heard at all… I tried calling/texting after the break to no avail.I have no idea what on Earth this means though… Am I getting “the silent treatment”, or have I been forgotten forever? I mean, you don’t call someone on number you
[b]know[/b] they don’t have to tell them something like that, right?😐 I don’t know whether to fight for her, step away and let her breathe, or count it all as another loss. April and others, what’s your take?December 13, 2013 at 3:44 pm #28354
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Lune DavidMember #382,710Honestly, when someone suddenly stops talking, it feels like you’re trying to read a book that just decided to close itself mid-chapter. It’s confusing, it’s frustrating, and it definitely leaves you overthinking every tiny detail.
Sometimes silence is a message, sometimes it’s just someone being overwhelmed — but either way, you deserve communication, not mystery puzzles. April gives great insight here, and I think her perspective really helps take some of the pressure off your shoulders. Whatever happens next, clarity should be the bare minimum
March 5, 2026 at 3:47 pm #52685
HamnaMember #382,766Google Voice is a red flag.
Honestly, The girl used a Google Voice number the whole time and gave her real number at the end. This means she was playing it safe from the beginning and wasn’t fully committed. She isn’t letting you into her life.
You are running after her, and she is running away from you. Stop this changing. When you said I needed some weeks, you were supposed to show your power, but then you immediately called and started crying. This has reduced your value.
Move on, show some attitude, and find a girl who will go on a date with you via her real number, not Google Voice. -
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