I have been dating this man for over a year, and we have known each other since we were in Jr High, but only got reacquainted last year after I separated from my husband. We started out casually dating – more like “friends with benefits” since we both had bad relationships in the past. After about 6 months we started really falling in love and it has been wonderful. He started talking in general terms about us getting married “some day”, eventhough I was not technically divorced. I had been separated from my husband for quiet a while and there was no chance of reconciliation so I just never bothered to get divorced, plus I didn’t really need to spend the money a divorce would cost. He began asking me about when I was going to get divorced and saying that he wanted us to get engaged and really urged me to file for divorce – which I did. The divorce cost me $1100.00 and took three months, but it was final a couple of weeks ago. Since then, he has said nothing about us getting engaged or mentioned any real plans for the future. I am really hurt and confused, but I don’t know if I should say something to him and if so what I should say. I feel he has had time enough to figure it out and at least propose to me and make a date for the future. It would be nice to have something definate to look forward to. Please give me your take on this. By the way, I am 52 years old with an 18 year old son and a 13 year old son. He is 53 with two grown, married sons. We are both employed with good jobs.
