So here is the story.
My boyfriend of 4 months decided to take his exgirlfriend (turned really good friend) out to dinner on sunday night. He told me and i said i was okay with it. This girl was who he lost his virginity to (while she was in a relationship with her now fiance) and htey hooked up for a while but that was a few years ago. My bf is also one of my oldest friends and i saw how hard it was for him to get over this girl, and he claims that for a year now atleast he’s been over her.
So they were going out, because he missed her birthday, and she’s been there through a lot for him. She wanted sushi and he told her they should go to this los angeles romantic spot. Its a sushi resturnat over lookign the whole city, and its where he took me to ask me out on a date. He always states that he will never take a girl to our spots, and this was definetly one of our spots.
So we were hanging out at my place and she was texting him to plan things out, and i saw the text where HE told her to go there. I couldn’t say i saw the text so i asked where they are going and he lied and said i don’t know i’ll call her when i’m on my way out and ask her. At that point, knowing he knows how important honesty to me is especially after he watched my ex lie and cheat on me, i thought he was telling the truth and that resturant mention was just a joke between them. Its a really expensive nice resturant so why would he take her there. THat night he called me and said “promise you won’t get mad” and told me they went to that resturant.
I was really mad, but what was worst is he kept promising me it was her choice to go there, and they spent the hwole time talkinga bout me. But the whole time he was lyign to me becasue i had already seen the text and it was HIS idea to go there. Finally i told him i had seen the text and he came clean. He said he wanted to take her to do something special after being mia for a few months and he didn’t pay for her, they met there separetly, and paid separetly. He knows it was wrong, but the thing is he knew it was wrong the first second he lied to me about where tehy were going. If you have to lie you shouldn’t be going there.
I said he’s not over her, thats the only reason he would take her somewehre he has to lie about and risk hurting me over. But he swore he doesn’t, and it was a big mistake. He knows its a mistake and he said he will cut her out of his life, but i don’t know if i should even give him a second chance or is hould say once a liar always a liar and keep it broken off.
I really miss him, and it doens’t help that i really thought he was the one for me. I really thought we would get married, especially after being such good firends with him for so long. This was the only time he’s lied, and the only problem we’ve really had? So what would you do if you were me?
