[EmilyX29]

I got a problem. I was in a chatroom the other night, and I got into a conversation with this guy who seemed really cool, so I suggested we exchange phone numbers so we could talk on the phone. He said he didn’t really want to do that. I got pissed off, and I told him to go to hell, and I ended the chat. But a few minutes later, I thought maybe I had over-reacted, so I went back to the chatroom to apologize, and much to my surprise, he was chatting with another woman already! I was furious. I interjected and told the woman not to waste her time with this guy since he’s obviously a player and he just wants to mess with people’s heads, and then I kind of said some bad words to the guy, and I logged off. About an hour later, I was still really bothered by this, so I sent the guy a private message, telling him that I felt he owed me an apology. He did not respond. I sent him another private message about a half-hour after that, again demanding an apology, and also saying that I felt he at least owed me the courtesy of a reply. Well, lo and behold, he DID reply, but this is what he wrote: “Please stop contacting me. You are not well. Get help.” Nice, huh? I was livid. Not only did he not apologize, he actually insulted me!
The next day, I created a fake ID for the chatroom, and I found him there, so i started up a conversation with him. He had no idea who I was, and I acted really nice and sweet. And just when he thought everything was fine, I told him who I really was. I guess his guilt got the best of him because he logged off immediately without even attempting to justify his behavior.
I tried emailing him again the day after that, but my email got rejected. Apparently the jerk blocked my account! I then tried emailing him with my fake account, but that got rejected, too.
I know what you’re probably thinking: “This guy is a loser, stop wasting your time with him.” But the thing is, our first chat was really, really good, and I feel like there’s something there, but I need him to apologize for the way he treated me before the relationship can progress.
I should mention that I’m 39 and he’s 26. I know it’s a big age difference, but it doesn’t bother me.
Do you think I should continue to pursue this? Or should I just say good riddance and find somebody new?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Sorry — but I think he’s right! 😮 You were completely out of line. He doesn’t owe you an apology for flirting with women online in a chat room just because he had one online conversation with you. You don’t have a relationship with him, so there’s no loyalty for him to break.

Don’t contact him again. 😳 He’s made it clear by blocking you and telling you not to contact him that he’s not interested.

My advice is not to meet men in online chat rooms — you’ll do a lot better in person! 😉 Try coffee shops, parks, sporting events and parties. Let your friends know you’re interested in being fixed up. If you meet men through these local venues or through a mutual friend, there’s a better chance of compatibility!

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