[tunnl85]

I was seeing this girl who just got out of a really bad relationship. I would go up to her work and see her. She would bring my lunch/chocolates at school and wait for me outside of each of my classes (college). She started coming over to my house and lying with me and such. We would go out on dates but she paid each time. I told her that me changing jobs, I was flat broke. I tried to kiss her once and she said “friends don’t get hit in the face”. She explained that she just wants to be friends for a while and does not want a relationship. I respected that, but I don’t know if I should have taken the chance and just kissed her. Why would she be over and lay next to me, touching me and such? I said I’ll be her friend but I already saw her as someone I liked and it is hard for me to go to a frienzone with her. Recently she has started dating someone else who’s able to take her out (and has made it no secret) more than me (just started a new job so I am a little broke). She seems to be a little more disinterested in me and I don’t know why. I’m thinking about completely ignoring her. Not to play mind games but for my own sanity. It just seems like a d*** move but I can’t think about what I need to be thinking about (school/work). She keeps calling/ and texting me. Is she playing mind games with me? Has she lost interest? Why? I need some help.

[ankit]

It is natural that if these things happen then you would like or dislike someone . There are chances that what she is saying would be true that she just likes you as a friend ,maybe she would be playing mind game . But as she cleared that you are just a friend of her and I think she just mean it , because as you already said that she is dating someone else . Don’t think anything like this that she would love you .
Or the other way is to clear all this off just ask her straight forward that what she thinks about you . No other way is better than this .All the Best.

[kai]

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[kai]

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[VixenGEM]

Well I would say that you were sort of her rebound.You helped her get over her ex thats why she just wanted to remain friends but do what a boyfriend and girlfriend would do.She just needed you for that time period and since shes got another boyfriend it is apparent that she used you.I really do ot think it was or is mind games that she was playing.Because she was quite clear, in words that she just wanted to be friends.I think you should ignore her if you feel that you cannot live with the fact she was only using you or you could just take it for what it is and remain good friends.And if so do not help her the same was again in another break up.

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[April Masini, your AskApril]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you. 😉

[Natalie Noah]

She was upfront about her boundaries. She wanted to remain friends and wasn’t ready for a romantic relationship. Her behavior, like lying next to you or being physically close, can feel confusing and intimate, but it doesn’t necessarily signal romantic interest; it’s often part of the rebound dynamic you mentioned, where someone leans on a trusted friend for comfort after a difficult breakup. She appreciated your company and support, but she had made it clear she wasn’t pursuing more than friendship.

For you, the key is protecting your emotional well-being. If staying close as a “friend” is painful or distracting especially now that she’s dating someone else, it’s completely reasonable to step back or even temporarily distance yourself. This isn’t about playing games; it’s about giving yourself the space to focus on your own priorities, like school and work, and to heal from the unreciprocated feelings. Accepting the friendship on her terms might work if you can emotionally detach, but if not, stepping back is the healthiest choice.

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