[Anonymous]

Hi there, maybe you can help me out….

I met a great guy in December and we really hit it off. We were both flying in to our hometown to visit family for the holidays. We got together once, kept in touch by phone and email and went our separate ways to different cities (hundreds of miles apart). Since then, we’ve kept in touch and talk 3-5 times a week. He initiates contact as much as I do so I’m not worried about this being “one-sided”. We are definitely friends but I find myself wondering if we can be more than friends.

We have good chemistry and have a lot in common. I find myself really looking forward to talking to him throughout the week and thinking about him often. Part of me wants to ask him how he feels about taking our relationship to the dating level but there’s another part of me that’s scared to do it. It’s so safe being where we are right now. We obviously enjoy getting to know each other and there are no pressures or expectations of being in a relationship. Even if he does want to take this to the next level, is it a good idea to start a long-distance relationship with a guy I’ve only met a couple of times? And should I be the one to bring this up? Or should I wait for him to bring this up?

Thanks for the advice!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, I want you to get my book, Think & Date Like A Man, and you can order it online here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. You’ll get a lot of good advice on this subject and more, which judging from your post, you need! 😉

In a nutshell, you should NOT escalate this relationship to the next step. That’s the guy’s job, and if he wants to, he will. You should be the one giving him something to chase, so my advice is to stop initiating contact, while at the same time, flirting a lot more when he makes the contact first. This will shift the dynamic from friendship to a romantic relationship.

I really hope you’ll get my book and read it — then let me know what you think. It will put you in a much better situation for dating this guy or any other guy in the future. 🙂

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