[tornandconfused]

I’m so glad i have found this website, I’m in desperate need of advice. Here’s my story:

My guy and I have been together for 7 months. As soon as we met, we hit it off instantly. We would hang out everyday and we never fought. Then I went to Florida for a two months but we stayed together, we would talk on the phone every chance we got, text all night and day and Skype about every other day. Everything seemed perfect. Until, the last week I was there. We started fighting about stupid little things so I thought it was time to come back. I was actually in Florida for school (I hadn’t started yet), so yes, I basically left school for him, very stupid of me but I missed him so much and I thought the distance was what was ruining our relationship. So, I figured I’d take a year off and start up school fall semester up where we live.

When I came back, everything went well for about a week. We started fighting about little things here and there and things just seemed to be falling apart.

One night, we went out to dinner, just the two of us. Afterwards, we went back to his house to cuddle and just relax. It seemed like a perfect little date night. He kept trying to tickle me but I had such a stomach ache, I just wanted to lay down. After that, he told me he was going to bed and that I had to leave. I was a little mad about it but I said whatever, because I knew he had class the next morning. I then went upstairs to get my leftovers out of the fridge and it was stuck, I tried to pull it out but it was making so much noise. He then comes upstairs and screams “hey, could you be any fucking louder?” After that, I grabbed my food and left without saying anything. He came out to my car and flipped out. “What the fuck is your problem, how could you leave without saying bye?” Then he walked away and I ran after him trying to talk and he says “No, fuck off!” and shoves me. After that, I just stood there in shock that he shoved me. I got in my car and left. He texted me while I was on my way driving home and said “don’t call me”. I replied with “okay, I won’t. I’m done with you, I deserve better than to be shoved and yelled at like you did.”

So yeah, I broke up with him. It was in the heat in the moment and I didn’t think it through. We texted back and forth a couple times after until the conversation died. The next day, I texted him because I really thought we needed to talk. He told me he was going up to his cousins house for the weekend to get away. After he got back, I tried numerous times to hang out with him and talk but he always found an excuse not to. He told me he wasn’t ready to talk about it yet. After three weeks of being broken up, he tells me that he will give me a second chance and that he really misses me and wants to make things work with me. I was the happiest girl alive. The next night, I went to his house. We had sex and right after we finished, his mom came home and I had to leave because it was pretty late. The next day, was my birthday. And he hung out with his friends! ALL DAY! He called me later on in the day and wished me a happy birthday. I asked him if he wanted to hang out and he said that he was tired and was going to take a nap. I expected a text later on that night and I got nothing. I then called him and he said that the next day would be better to hang out because I’d be able to sleepover and I was fine with that. Can you guess? The next day, he told me he had studying for finals to do and that I wouldn’t be able to sleep over. I told him okay, but i’m going to the movies with a friend. I got no reply back.

In the morning, I went on Facebook and didn’t see his name on my chat thing like usual. I searched his name and saw that HE DELETED ME! I must have called and texted him a million times before I decided to go to his house. His mom let me in and told him I was there. He sounded really mad when he said he’d come upstairs in a minute. Ten minutes later, he comes upstairs and tells me that we should talk outside. He opened the door, let me outside, and closed the door, BEHIND ME! I was again, in shock that he would do such a thing. He came outside a second after and told me that he was done with me. He told me he was tired of me playing games with him. He didn’t give me a chance to talk at all before he closed the door on me again. After that, I just left. I went home and cried my eyes out then decided to go out with some friends. He texted me later on in the day saying that he’s “done for now”. I asked him if he wanted me to wait for him, as if we were on a little break or something, and he said do whatever I think feels right. He told me he won’t be talking to anyone else meanwhile because I “drained him out”.

This is where I need advice big time. I know he might sound like an asshole but he’s actually really sweet. He usually treats me like a princess. It’s just when he gets mad that I see a whole other side of him 🙁 I want to be with him, I really want to make it work with him but I’m just confused. I really believe if we talk things out and talk about what we need to work on, we can really make this relationship work. I’m afraid that he might start talking to someone else while I’m sitting here like an idiot waiting for him though. Please, help me. Should I wait a little bit longer? How long should I wait? Or should I not wait at all and just move on?

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this! xoxo

[AskApril Masini]

No. You shouldn’t wait for him. He’s told you multiple times that he’s done with you. He’s treated you badly. He’s made it very clear he doesn’t want to be with you.

You can do a lot better. 😉

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