[curiousjen]

my boyfriend has a thing for strip clubs. Before we got together he would go a lot. He is known in our circle of friends at the “strip club guy”. Now that we are together he doesn’t go anymore (or so he tells me he doesn’t). He has mentioned going for a friend’s Bachelor party and going for his other friend’s birthday. SHould i be worried?? should i agree to let him go?? it feels weird to me that he would go spend money to see a girl get naked when he has a pregnant girlfriend at home. One of my friends suggested i go with him one time and see what its like. do you recommend that?

[AugustLove]

I use to bartend at a strip club and honestly 9 times out of 10. Those girls aren’t interested in anyone and pretty much looking at the clock awaiting to get back home to their husbands or boyfriends. If that doesn’t help you, I don’t know if your spiritual, but light a candle and say/visualizing your man going to the club and feeling that it’s not the same feeling he use to think was exciting before, but it’s lost it’s excitement.. speak that he’s distracted by other things he could be spending his money on, that he has out grown that atmosphere. No connection whatsoever. You can’t keep him from sneaking his way back into those places but you can visualize him and saying it’s not for him anymore. You can do this for anything in your life and it works.. Think hard and speak it! You will smile when you hear him say.. it’s not the same anymore! Ask and it is given! Good luck 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]SHould i be worried??[/quote]

You should definitely be worried that he was known as “the strip club guy” and now he’s going back to a club. 😕 But the fact that he stopped going when he became involved with you is a good fact. Men are visual and they get turned on seeing naked women. I don’t have to do the rest of the math for you — you already know why strip clubs are worrisome and I agree with you, that they are.

[quote]should i agree to let him go??[/quote]

I don’t think you get to “let him” go unless you’re his mother, in which case you have a whole different slew of problems! 😆 He’s going to go or not go because of what his moral compass tells him. In fact, he may feel that he’s so committed to you that going for his friend’s bachelor party is just not a big deal and he’s going only for his friend and you have absolutely nothing to be worried about.

[quote]One of my friends suggested i go with him one time and see what its like. do you recommend that?[/quote]

No. I don’t think it’s going to make you feel better. What will make you feel better is to invest in your relationship with him. Make sure he feels like the king of the castle at home. Men cheat because they want to feel a certain way and when they don’t feel that way at home, they look for that feeling elsewhere. It’s never about what “the other woman” looks like — it’s about how she makes him feel. Do your job at home 😎 and you’ll keep him coming back for more. 😉

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