I am 24 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years now. He has always made more money than me, but the majority of our relationship I have foot the bill for things. I feel used and taken advantage of. I also feel stupid for not realizing what was going on earlier. He makes $10.00 more an hour than me and we have approximently the same amount to pay in bills. During our relationship I have completed school and worked multiple jobs. He has a good paying job, but gets laid off in the winter (approx: 3 months). I have lent him money few times. He has made an effort to pay me back… but after almost 5 years still owes me money (for the things I started to write down). I pay to go to the movies, dinner, and the majority of trips we have taken most of the time. When I ask him where his money goes… he says he has no clue. I want to believe this because he seems so genuine. He says he is trying to change and that he wants to change. I’m happy with this but i fear consistancy… or lack there of. He cannot give me an answer aws to where all his money goes. He is 30, has poor credit, no savings… nothing. I’m wanting to plan kids and a house in the next few years… which i don’t see happening with him financially. I love this guy… it hurts to picture life with out him. He can be very sweet… but his financial distress has been the reason why he has not gotten me birthday gifts, christmas gift, or valentine gifts. He also can be very selfish. It reminds me of a child sometimes. I feel like I give give give… and i’m getting tired of it. Someday I just want to say forget it… but other days I look at him and want him forever. This battle inside me is killing me.
