You’re in a really painful and confusing spot, Nadia. The way your boyfriend framed this “break” is concerning essentially giving himself permission to explore other options while keeping you as a backup. That’s a heavy emotional load for anyone to carry, and it puts your heart in a vulnerable position. Even if he claims the odds of him hooking up with someone else are “one in a million,” the very fact that he has the freedom to do so is likely to breed insecurity, anxiety, and heartbreak. This isn’t about being an idiot for agreeing; it’s about recognizing that your needs, boundaries, and emotional safety matter too.
A healthy relationship is built on trust, mutual respect, and commitment not conditional exploration. By agreeing to this arrangement, you’ve put yourself in a position where your feelings could easily be hurt, and you’re waiting on someone else to decide if you’re worthy of their love. Love should feel secure, not like a test. It’s important to consider whether staying in this setup truly serves your well-being or if it’s better to step back and protect yourself from unnecessary pain. Sometimes the most loving choice for both yourself and your relationship might be to pause and reevaluate what you truly deserve.
