I’ve been with my bf for 3.5 years. We recently moved in together with my mother and brother because things were getting hard. He doesn’t get along well with my brother because he’s really clingy and that means we hardly get any time alone anymore. Our work schedules also don’t mix so that makes it even more difficult for us to have time together. My bf has always had a really bad temper, with an extremely short fuse. He gets violent by yelling, but not physically violent. Lately, that side of him has been constantly appearing. Our last big fight was Friday, when I told him I’d rather see a movie with him Sunday than that Friday night because my dad, who’s moving to Alabama in a couple days, wanted to take me and my brother out. I can understand why he was mad, but at the same time, he didn’t even hear me out. He started going off and he always says things before he thinks them through. For about the 5th time in our relationship, he told me ‘f**k you.’ it hurt so bad. But he doesn’t care because he’s saying I hurt him all the time. Not once have I ever had the nerve to say anything that awful to him, even in my deepest fit of rage. He lost his temper when we were trying to discuss the issue and threw the remote control- not purposefully at me, but it did end up hitting me in the leg. I cried for about an hour tonight, and then he said he thought it was pathetic how I wanted him to feel sorry for me when I hurt him so bad, and that’s when he swore at me. It’s breaking my heart how things are playing out. I guess my question is any advice? Do you think things will get better with time? There’s just so much tension in the house, but should what he did be unforgivable? I really do love him, and once we got our new place we were gonna start planning a wedding. I’ve just never felt so worthless and insecure. Help?
