First loves are important, and they’re meaningful, but the ones like yours, that start in your teenage years, start because as teens you have an attraction and you have teenage things in common. Four years later, lives change. You’re in a different place than you were when you fell in love. The problem your mother sees is that your life is going in a very different direction than his is. You’re going to college and furthering your education, and you probably have your eye on a career with a lifestyle that is independent and thriving. He isn’t continuing his education. He isn’t forging a career. He doesn’t have a job. His family loves you, but they probably also think that you’re going to save their son or straighten him out because they couldn’t. Right now, you haven’t quite outgrown him yet, but you will. Your mom wants the best for you, and she sees him as someone who’s going to hold you back and not help you to thrive. His having cheated on your — or tried to — makes him someone who doesn’t have your best interests at heart.
Ultimately, you have to do what’s right for you — not your mother, but I have to agree with your mother here. You shouldn’t marry him — at least not right now — and you should probably set your sights on college and meeting guys who are your peers there. 😉
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