[tornandconfusedxx]

My boyfriend and I are 20 years old and attend the same university. We met in the first few days of our freshman year and have been inseparable ever since. We stumbled into this relationship soon after that, and we are still together today almost 2 years later.

Although we love each other very much, I still feel trapped in the relationship. I feel like I am too young to be this committed to another person, and that we are basically married without the ring!

I’m not sure what I should do. I feel that it is too late to turn back the clock on our very serious relationship and make it some sort of casual, friends with benefits/open relationship situation. I don’t want to break up with him because I definitely have deep feelings for him that are not in doubt.

However, staying in this relationship makes me feel suffocated–like I’ve found my life partner a decade before I was ready.

We’ve already discussed this situation, and it seems that he doesn’t share my feelings to the same degree.

What should I do??

[April Masini, your AskApril]

My advice is to break up and move on. I know that sounds harsh, but you’re looking at two not very comfortable choices, and if you stay in the relationship, you’ll have regrets. You’re very young and for you to not experience dating — when you want to — is going to make you resentful.

Timing is important in relationships, and while you love your boyfriend YOUR needs aren’t being met — not because of him, but because you’re not ready to be in the monogamous and insulated relationship you are.

I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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