I vote for your new boyfriend, and here’s why:
1. In life, there will always be family problems, work problems, sexual problems, money problems — you name the subject, and I can tell you the problem that any couple will encounter over the long term in that area. Your ex-boyfriend’s family problems brought him to a halt in your relationship, and you need someone who’s going to be able to weather the tough times WITH you, not by having to take a break, then tell you to move on, and then whipsaw back to you because he’s jealous you’ve done what he told you to do and are getting male attention. Your ex doesn’t have the fortitude to weather the bumps in life and stay with you in the long run.
2. Trust your family and friends. If they like this new guy a lot more than they like your ex, allow that set of votes to weigh in on your decision.
3. Understand that having lost your virginity to your ex-boyfriend makes him special, but not necessarily the man you should be with in the long run. Allow yourself to love him for what you had, but to move on in your mind and your heart, to someone who may be your Mr. Right for the long term.
4. Your current boyfriend sounds great. Your issues with sex with him don’t sound fatal. In fact whenever there is a new partner in a woman’s (or man’s) life, there’s often an adjustment period to get to know each other sexually. Allow yourself to figure out what you and your new boyfriend like sexually, and allow your relationship time to make the sex work. Honestly, it can take a while before both people are comfortable, but do not let them deter you from staying with this guy who has so much else going for himself — and for you.
I hope that helps you make a decision.
