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[b][color=#8040BF]April, I am in my mid-twenties and have a big problem in relationships. Here is the thing, I can’t keep a relationship longer then a few months. I know this is my fault but I can’t figure out why, myself. Everytime a great guy comes along the first week I think “o my god, this is mr. wonderful” but then it just hits me, panic attacks with thoughts like ” do I want a serious relationship right now,then he starts annoying me, what if this gets serious, is he the right one? And I overwhelm myself to the point that I can’t breathe anymore when I am with him. Now I met another great guy but I dont want to scare this one away like the rest except the feelings are starting to come back.Also I do want that happy relationship and to be with someone I can see myslef fall in love with, so WHAT DO I DO?

Sincerely ,
Hopeless[/color][/b]

[April Masini, your AskApril]

From what you’ve written, it sounds like you’re having anxiety that is either causing you to dump the guys or causing them to dump you. Correct me if I’m wrong on that.

If this is an anxiety problem — and not a choosing the right guy problem — then you have to work on what it is that is making you anxious. This is going to require you to get very, very calm so you can tolerate your discomfort long enough to figure out what is triggering your feelings. Right now, you’re getting swept away by your emotions and you’re committing to your feelings instead of deciding to be uncomfortable and figure out what, exactly, is making you uncomfortable.

Once you recognize the cause of your discomfort, then you can address that.

I hope hope this helps. Let me know how this goes, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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