My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years now and we keep running into the same issues and we don’t know how to solve them. My issues are that I want him to be more affectionate and I want him to have a positive can-do attitude about life. Most of our relationship is focused on how to solve his personal problems, and I feel like I am a good coach, but I’m tired of it. Nothing has led to significant improvement and I am at my saturation point with talking about the same things over and over. I am optimistic and making things happen in my life and he seems to want to do the same, but reverts back to excuses and how unfair the world is, etc. I don’t want him to feel bad about himself, but I am also very open with him that I am unhappy and I want things to change. I offered to pay for a life coach or counseling, but we aren’t very well off, so he refuses to spend the money. Something has to change and I’m trying to change myself by having more patience, but my unhappiness is still evident. Please point me in the right direction.
