[quote]Yet when I tell him that I would pay for the divorce he gets angry with me. I am so confused.[/quote]
Don’t be confused. He doesn’t want the divorce — that’s why he’s angry at your suggesting you’d pay for it.
[quote]I thought thats what he wanted yet he does not have anything to do with me.[/quote]
He doesn’t want the divorce, AND he doesn’t want you. I know this doesn’t make sense to you because it’s not what you would want, but he isn’t you. He just wants what he wants — no divorce, and other women, and no you. 😥 Not a very good deal for you. 😕
[quote]If he doesn’t love me why does he still want to be married to me? [/quote]
Here’s a better question: If he doesn’t love you, and he’s with other women, why do YOU still want to be with him? 😯
[quote]Why does he resent me? Please help me understand. [/quote]
He resents you because you exist. He resents you because he thinks he made a mistake marrying you and he doesn’t want to divorce you, so he’s stuck. Instead of getting mad at himself, he’s going to blame you.
[quote]I just want for him to be happy. With me or without me.[/quote]
You can’t make him happy. That’s his job.
What’s of concern is that you’re skirting the real issue here: Why are you staying with him? You probably have some legal and financial liability now that he has a child with another woman, so it would be a good idea to talk to an attorney, who will most likely advise you to get a divorce to protect your assets. But that’s just legal. I’m here to tell you that in terms of your relationship, you have one — but it’s a bad one. My advice is to file for divorce and try and find a happy and healthy relationship for yourself! 😀
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