[Loveli]

I changed schools a while back and I’m pretty cool whit my new high school, the problem is like always coming to the same ground, there is a guy I like and I really don’t get him. You see, the guy I like treats me very strangely, he talks to me for about a week or two then starts ignoring me for about a month! When I say he ignores me I mean like he doesn’t talk to me, answer when I talk or even acknowledge me, when I talk he just looks at me and says absolutely nothing, even when I’m talking directly at him. I was going to give up when suddenly he started talking to me again but he was still acting strange, he stuttered, got trembling hands and even started going out of his way to ask little unnecessary things that he could have asked anyone else! Some other very strange things happened like his friend looking and even pointing at me while talking to him.

And once he was talking trough chat whit one of his friends and he started listing all his girl friends and he included me when we barely even talk and then they posted it on facebook and obviously tagged me. The on the comments they started going on about “doing something” whit me whit out saying exactly what, I mean practically all of his friends were joking about that he said nothing and I had no idea what was the deal whit them! I asked why just me and that only got worse… In the end I had to ignore it before I when totally nuts! Now I was thinking maybe he likes me too… And out of nowhere he went back to ignoring me! And then the cycle repeated.

Now this time around he ignored me for around 3 weeks or a little more I think, then one day I noticed him looking at me a lot. That same day we had laboratory on chemistry and he is always on my group but never talks to me during the laboratories, no idea why, yet he sticked to me like glue during the experiment on this day and after we finished the teacher called me and gave me some paper to hang over. When I saw his name on his paper I walked up to him and handed him his paper, I was standing next to him, he looked at me and then took the paper, but instead of doing it whit out touching my hand (which was in no way necessary), like most people would do, he put his hand right above/over mine. Now I couldn’t believe it I just let go slowly and walked away… After that he went back to ignoring me again.

The thing is that he is making me go crazy! I don’t get him, I really don’t. Could you give me a hand in understanding this very strange guy?
Thanks in advance.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

High school boys can be very mature, but more likely they’re [i]not nearly[/i] as mature as high school girls. This guy doesn’t have a lot of experience with women, and his behavior reflects that. He may not even be sure about how he feels about you, and he certainly isn’t consistent in his behavior. Just because you’re clear that you like him, doesn’t mean he feels the same way — and more likely he goes back and forth about his feelings, and his behavior reflects that uncertainty.

He also isn’t mature enough to approach you directly, so you’re getting a lot of indirect behavior. I hope that that helps explain his confusing behavior to you!

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[Loveli]

Actually it helped a lot. Tough now I have a new factor I would like to take into count. Recently I found out that actually he knows I like him or at last is pretty much sure of it because everyone has been paying attention to how I act towards him. Now knowing this is making me extremely nervous 🙁 Now we are in exams so I didn’t have time to thank you sooner and then I found this out. Could his behavior be related to the fact of him suspecting or even knowing I like him? I am guessing yes. But now I have no clue what to do and ended up ignoring him the past few days. So I try to not even look at him and instead concentrate on school and my friends.

I am really thankful to you, your advice eased my mind a bit because I was going on and on about that on my mind, having your point of view really relaxed me a lot, so I could concentrate again on school for what’s left of this trimester (we have 3 trimesters at school, we are ending the second 1 so yeah lot’s of homework and that). I’m kinda sorry for not answering before 😳 but… yeah I’m writing now! 😀
Well umm… Thanks again really. Your advice it’s great hope you could help me a bit again 🙂 Actually finding out that he knows kinda got me a bit down to. Well Leaving that aside today he acted pretty weird… don’t really know how to explain it, just weird. If you want to ask me something feel free to do so, after all the expert is you I’m just a really confused highschool girl! 😆 and God of us there are a lot!! 😀

Well Thanks for taking the time to read my problems 🙂 And to answer them too! 🙂 Really, thank you <3

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He’s [i]still[/i] a guy with very little experience and knowing that you like him probably makes him feel uncertain of what he wants to do, or how he feels about everyone knowing. He’s also feeling like everyone is watching for his reaction, and I’m sure you feel the same way. Being center stage, when you haven’t memorized your lines — let alone know what they’re supposed to be because there is no script! — is definitely nerve wracking.

My advice is try not to focus on what other people are thinking about you, and don’t put too much effort into gauging his reaction. It’s great to like someone! Now, try and keep things light and fun — instead of heavy and introspective. 😉

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[Loveli]

Hi April, last time I posted here was a while ago but your advice of taking it easy 😀 I took it. Everything has been going fine but yesterday something awful happened whit the guy I like, he’s gotten better actually less tongue tied 😀 . But now the problem is two days ago I was walking out of the classroom during lunch whit my best friend and he happened to be right in front of us. I don’t know why she was in such a hurry but she practically shoved him aside whit out saying “excuse me” and then when she had already shoved him “out of the way” she said “thanks”. I found that so rude! I could not believe she would do that! At the moment maybe I exaggerated a little and said a lot to her that it was wrong, that she should apologize and all that, but because of the way she is she took it all lightly and joked about it, I really love my besty and at that moment no matter how mad I was I could not help but laugh at her jokes yet after the laugh I would again insist that what she did was wrong.

In the end she refused to apologize to him, saying that she said “thanks” and that she would be careful to say “excuse me” next time. Lunch was over so I had to give up. But I feel guilt 😕 … both for not been able to have her apologize and for laughing! 😐 Oh… I feel so guilty for laughing. I want to tell him I’m sorry and that I should have not laughed, but I did not have the chance that day and yesterday was a national day here in my country so we don’t go to school and on top of that today he did not come because now he is sick (one of his friends that lives near him told me). So the next chance for me to say sorry is on monday… The problem is: Should I really say sorry? I know he saw me laughing, I saw him. But I’m not sure if it would be proper, my other friends (not the one that does not want to apologize) say I should, both my girl friends and guy friends say so. But if I really should, how should I go about it? I am kind of nervous and confused about what to say 😳 . Any advise?

Thanks for reading my problems again, really. Hope you can give me a hand again.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Like I said last time, you need to lighten up and stop analyzing this so much. 😉 If you want to apologize, then when you see him, you should. If you’re too nervous to apologize, then don’t. Don’t make a big deal out of this. 🙂 Instead, focus on having fun and connecting with him when it’s possible to do so! 😀 Focus on the good times you have with him, not the ones that make you anxious.

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