I have been dating a younger guy for past two years. It has been fun for the most part but I think the age difference (20 years) has been emotionally draining at times. He has kept his living space and I have kept mine. There were no conversations about long term relationships, no commitments made. Up until this Valentine’s day there haven’t been gift exchanges. This Valentines I received flowers and he started calling me everyday. In a way I felt he was trying to let me know he decided we were in a relationship (without asking me). I received the following message today:
“Hi. I know this sucks but I’m breaking up with you. I’m not relationship material right now, even with as casual as ours is. I’m not sure I ever will be. I thought writing this would make it easier to explain but it’s not. All I can say is that I need to be by myself and figure out what I want to do. I need to do this this way so I don’t end up treating you like crap and then we break up in a horrible mess of hurt feelings and mean words. I wish I knew a better way to explain it but I don’t. If you still want to be friends and hang out at work I’m all for it. If you don’t then I’ll live with it. I am sorry….. see you later.”
I can’t say that I am hurt and I don’t know that advice is what I’m looking for although if you have any advice I’d appreciate it. I’m actually looking for thoughts and/or opinions from someone who doesn’t know either of us regarding the message.
