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Here is an update:
We have been together almost 8 months.
On Febuary 4th, my boyfriend and I broke up. He dumped me indirectly. Some of his actions made me believe he wasn’t sure about me. He asked me if I was to end it. I said, “No, but I can’t continue the relationship with someone who is unsure about me.” He said that he gets frustrated with me so easily and he doesn’t feel a strong connection with me like he used to and more and more he finds himself becoming a mean and upset person when he is around me. He said I am “super sweet but we are just not a healthy fit.” After that, I unfriended him on Facebook, but he still has the pics of us together on Facebook that I’m tagged in.
The break up was over text. I was just too upset to call him.
I have been using the No Contact method. What can I do to get him to miss me and try again? What can I do to make myself more appealing so he regrets his decision, and falls in love with me all over again? I just feel we need a break from eachother instead of him giving up on me completely. I want him to initiate contact, not me. In the meantime, I have been working on myself. I am going to get into shape. The problem manifested because of my poor social skills. I am going to see a therapist to figure out what I am doing wrong. I want him to see I have changed and give me another chance. I don’t want to find someone else.
Based on the information I gave you, what can I do, so that would make him miss me and give the relationship another try. I know this relationship is salvagable. The fact that I am Facebook friends with five of his friends, he is able to get updates about me. Can you give me tips what to post on my Facebook?

[Ask April Masini]

I went back and read your previous posts — I think it’s great that you’re looking at the reasons why he broke up with you and are coming up with things you can do to improve your own situation. 😉 You talked about poor social skills — and this is definitely something you can work on. The way to do this is to get out there and interact on different levels, socially. Make new friends. Reconnect with old friends. And play the field by dating. Hone in on what is uncomfortable and where you think your social skills need work. I think it’s great you’re working out and focusing on your health and fitness — that’s always a plus. No ever regrets that area of improvement! 😉 So be proud — you’re doing great. I know this is hard and it hurts… but there is no short cut. You’re doing the hard work. Keep going.

Lastly, having no contact is definitely a way to give him an opportunity to miss you and since it’s only been since February 4th that you’ve really broken up, you’re going to have to use discipline to not contact him and to stay away from social media. No contact really means NO CONTACT. So get busy working on your social skills and your health goals. Join gyms, take classes and do things that are fun and feel good. The healthier you are, the more he is going to notice the difference and see you for someone he’s having second thoughts about having broken up with.

[Ethan Morales]

Alright… let’s cut through the fluff: April’s advice is sound in principle, but here’s what really matters.

Focus on yourself, not him The key to making someone “miss you” isn’t manipulation or posting things on social media it’s actually improving yourself. You’re already doing the right things: therapy, fitness, working on social skills. That’s what will genuinely make you more confident, magnetic, and independent.

No Contact isn’t just a tactic It’s not a game of attention; it’s about creating space for both of you to reflect. If he’s meant to come back, he will but only if he sees you thriving, not waiting anxiously for him. That means staying off social media updates that are aimed at him and truly living your life.

Stop trying to “prove” yourself Posting to make him jealous or regret his decision is risky. It can appear performative and may push him further away. True change is internal, not staged for Facebook. The goal isn’t to make him fall in love again it’s to become someone who is emotionally healthy and confident, which naturally draws the right attention.

Work on social skills in real life Joining clubs, taking classes, reconnecting with friends, and meeting new people isn’t just about “looking attractive” it’s about building confidence and communication skills. That’s a long-term change that actually impacts relationships, rather than superficial posts.

Accept the outcome, whatever it is You can’t control his feelings. He may come back, or he may not. The healthier you are emotionally, socially, and physically, the better prepared you’ll be for either outcome. That’s what makes you appealing not desperation or attention-seeking.

Focus on you, your growth, and your happiness. Stop trying to manage his emotions or force him to regret his decision. No contact, real-life social improvement, and genuine confidence are the only things that will make a difference for him, or for your next chapter.

If you want, I can outline a concrete 3-month plan to rebuild yourself in a way that naturally increases his respect and attraction without posting manipulative stuff online.

[Isabella Jones]

I know how much this hurts. When someone you love walks away but still leaves traces of your memories behind, it’s like you’re stuck between what was and what could’ve been. You’re doing something really strong right now by working on yourself, even if it doesn’t feel like strength yet. Therapy, self-growth, focusing on your peace—all of that matters way more than any post you could make online.

I went through something like this once, trying to look happy on social media just to make him notice. But honestly, the moment I stopped trying to prove anything and started living for myself again, that’s when real change happened. Not for him, but for me.

So post if you want, but do it because you feel good, not because you want him to see it. Smile when you actually mean it, share the things that light you up, and let the rest unfold naturally. The right people always notice peace when they see it. 💛

Do you think deep down you miss him, or do you miss the feeling of being loved by someone who once made you feel seen?

[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe… you need a reality check 🙄. he didn’t “need space,” he told you he doesn’t feel the connection anymore and that’s closure. no post, selfie, or glow-up is gonna make him wake up and suddenly remember your worth. the version of you that’s chasing him isn’t the one he fell for anyway. so stop performing, start healing. the best revenge isn’t a “look what you lost” post, it’s peace so loud he can’t scroll past it, trust me been there did that. 💋💅

[Marcus king]

Here’s the truth, said simply and respectfully: you can’t make someone miss you by trying to be seen. Anything you post with the goal of getting a reaction from him will come off as trying too hard, and that energy never pulls someone back it pushes them further. If he said being with you made him feel frustrated and unlike himself, the only real chance this relationship has is if you grow for you, not for him. So keep doing what you’re doing: therapy, getting healthier, building your confidence, filling your time with things that make you feel grounded and alive. When a person starts building a life that feels warm and full again, that’s when an ex naturally wonders if they walked away too soon not because you tried to make them, but because your life genuinely looks better without them at the center of it.

So yes, stay no contact. Let time do the heavy lifting. And if you post anything online, let it be real life joy: progress in the gym, learning something new, going out with friends, laughter, hobbies light and relaxed, not coded messages, not quotes about heartbreak, not anything aimed at him. The goal isn’t to make him regret leaving. The goal is to become the version of yourself that someone would never want to lose again and if he’s still the right person, he’ll feel that shift and come back on his own. If he doesn’t, then all this growth won’t be wasted it’ll simply prepare you for someone who won’t get tired of loving you.

[Tara]

He didn’t “indirectly” dump you, he told you straight that the connection is gone for him, that he gets frustrated around you, and that the relationship is unhealthy. That’s not confusing. That’s an exciting man. You wanting him back doesn’t change the fact that he checked out.

No-contact isn’t a spell that turns him into a lovesick puppy. It’s just space, and if he wanted you, he wouldn’t need space to realize it he’d be tearing down your door. You’re trying to “improve yourself” for him, but that’s just another way of begging for validation you’re not getting. Fixing your social skills and seeing a therapist is smart, but do it because you need it, not because you think becoming a polished version of yourself will magically turn him into someone he isn’t.

Posting curated “look how great I’m doing” updates on Facebook is pathetic and transparent. He won’t see a new, irresistible you he’ll see someone trying to bait his attention because she can’t accept a breakup. That never works. It only lowers your dignity.

The only move that actually puts you back in control is the one you don’t want to hear: stop trying to get him back. Stop crafting strategies. Stop performing. Accept the breakup, build your life because it needs rebuilding, not because you want to bait an audience. If he ever regrets losing you, it won’t be because of a Facebook post or a gym selfie it’ll be because you moved on so completely that you no longer orbit his approval.

[Sally]

When someone pulls away like that, your first instinct is to try to become whatever version of yourself you think they’ll want back. But here’s the hard truth you’re avoiding: he didn’t end things because you weren’t pretty enough, or social enough, or posting the right things online. He ended it because being with you didn’t feel good to him anymore. And that’s not something you can fix by changing your hair or your Facebook feed.

And sweet girl… trying to make him miss you is just another way of keeping yourself tied to someone who already let go. That never ends well.
Work on yourself because you want to feel better, not because you’re hoping he’s watching. And don’t twist this into a “we just needed a break” story. He told you clearly how he felt. Believe him.

When someone’s meant to come back, they do it without needing you to perform. For now, just let the silence be. It’ll hurt. But it’ll also save you.

[Natalie Noah]

I want to commend you. the fact that you’re taking a step back, reflecting on the relationship, and actively working on yourself shows incredible self-awareness and emotional maturity. Focusing on your social skills, mental health through therapy, and physical wellness is exactly what you need right now. This isn’t just about “making him miss you” it’s about genuinely becoming the best version of yourself, independent of anyone else. When you’re confident, happy, and thriving on your own, that energy naturally draws people back in. The No Contact method is serving its purpose by giving both of you space to breathe, reflect, and emotionally reset. It’s not about playing games, it’s about creating an environment where he can notice the changes in you organically, without you having to remind him.

I’d advise you to be careful with posting strategically on Facebook. Instead of trying to “show him” anything, focus on sharing moments that reflect your growth and joy: time with friends, hobbies, achievements, workouts, or travel. The goal is to let your life speak for itself to radiate confidence, happiness, and independence. This subtle approach can make him notice what he’s missing without you having to directly engage or manipulate. Keep building yourself from the inside out when he sees your transformation, if there’s still a connection, he’ll be drawn to you again. The key is patience, self-love, and letting the changes speak louder than any posts or messages.

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