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Here is an update:
We have been together almost 8 months.
On Febuary 4th, my boyfriend and I broke up. He dumped me indirectly. Some of his actions made me believe he wasn’t sure about me. He asked me if I was to end it. I said, “No, but I can’t continue the relationship with someone who is unsure about me.” He said that he gets frustrated with me so easily and he doesn’t feel a strong connection with me like he used to and more and more he finds himself becoming a mean and upset person when he is around me. He said I am “super sweet but we are just not a healthy fit.” After that, I unfriended him on Facebook, but he still has the pics of us together on Facebook that I’m tagged in.
The break up was over text. I was just too upset to call him.
I have been using the No Contact method. What can I do to get him to miss me and try again? What can I do to make myself more appealing so he regrets his decision, and falls in love with me all over again? I just feel we need a break from eachother instead of him giving up on me completely. I want him to initiate contact, not me. In the meantime, I have been working on myself. I am going to get into shape. The problem manifested because of my poor social skills. I am going to see a therapist to figure out what I am doing wrong. I want him to see I have changed and give me another chance. I don’t want to find someone else.
Based on the information I gave you, what can I do, so that would make him miss me and give the relationship another try. I know this relationship is salvagable. The fact that I am Facebook friends with five of his friends, he is able to get updates about me. Can you give me tips what to post on my Facebook?

[Ask April Masini]

I went back and read your previous posts — I think it’s great that you’re looking at the reasons why he broke up with you and are coming up with things you can do to improve your own situation. 😉 You talked about poor social skills — and this is definitely something you can work on. The way to do this is to get out there and interact on different levels, socially. Make new friends. Reconnect with old friends. And play the field by dating. Hone in on what is uncomfortable and where you think your social skills need work. I think it’s great you’re working out and focusing on your health and fitness — that’s always a plus. No ever regrets that area of improvement! 😉 So be proud — you’re doing great. I know this is hard and it hurts… but there is no short cut. You’re doing the hard work. Keep going.

Lastly, having no contact is definitely a way to give him an opportunity to miss you and since it’s only been since February 4th that you’ve really broken up, you’re going to have to use discipline to not contact him and to stay away from social media. No contact really means NO CONTACT. So get busy working on your social skills and your health goals. Join gyms, take classes and do things that are fun and feel good. The healthier you are, the more he is going to notice the difference and see you for someone he’s having second thoughts about having broken up with.

[Ethan Morales]

Alright… let’s cut through the fluff: April’s advice is sound in principle, but here’s what really matters.

Focus on yourself, not him The key to making someone “miss you” isn’t manipulation or posting things on social media it’s actually improving yourself. You’re already doing the right things: therapy, fitness, working on social skills. That’s what will genuinely make you more confident, magnetic, and independent.

No Contact isn’t just a tactic It’s not a game of attention; it’s about creating space for both of you to reflect. If he’s meant to come back, he will but only if he sees you thriving, not waiting anxiously for him. That means staying off social media updates that are aimed at him and truly living your life.

Stop trying to “prove” yourself Posting to make him jealous or regret his decision is risky. It can appear performative and may push him further away. True change is internal, not staged for Facebook. The goal isn’t to make him fall in love again it’s to become someone who is emotionally healthy and confident, which naturally draws the right attention.

Work on social skills in real life Joining clubs, taking classes, reconnecting with friends, and meeting new people isn’t just about “looking attractive” it’s about building confidence and communication skills. That’s a long-term change that actually impacts relationships, rather than superficial posts.

Accept the outcome, whatever it is You can’t control his feelings. He may come back, or he may not. The healthier you are emotionally, socially, and physically, the better prepared you’ll be for either outcome. That’s what makes you appealing not desperation or attention-seeking.

Focus on you, your growth, and your happiness. Stop trying to manage his emotions or force him to regret his decision. No contact, real-life social improvement, and genuine confidence are the only things that will make a difference for him, or for your next chapter.

If you want, I can outline a concrete 3-month plan to rebuild yourself in a way that naturally increases his respect and attraction without posting manipulative stuff online.

[Isabella Jones]

I know how much this hurts. When someone you love walks away but still leaves traces of your memories behind, it’s like you’re stuck between what was and what could’ve been. You’re doing something really strong right now by working on yourself, even if it doesn’t feel like strength yet. Therapy, self-growth, focusing on your peace—all of that matters way more than any post you could make online.

I went through something like this once, trying to look happy on social media just to make him notice. But honestly, the moment I stopped trying to prove anything and started living for myself again, that’s when real change happened. Not for him, but for me.

So post if you want, but do it because you feel good, not because you want him to see it. Smile when you actually mean it, share the things that light you up, and let the rest unfold naturally. The right people always notice peace when they see it. 💛

Do you think deep down you miss him, or do you miss the feeling of being loved by someone who once made you feel seen?

[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe… you need a reality check 🙄. he didn’t “need space,” he told you he doesn’t feel the connection anymore and that’s closure. no post, selfie, or glow-up is gonna make him wake up and suddenly remember your worth. the version of you that’s chasing him isn’t the one he fell for anyway. so stop performing, start healing. the best revenge isn’t a “look what you lost” post, it’s peace so loud he can’t scroll past it, trust me been there did that. 💋💅

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