[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe… he already showed you his pattern! runs to the ex, comes back when it burns 😒 you’re giving girlfriend energy to a man who won’t even give you a title. don’t fly anywhere for “maybe.” if he wants you, he’ll make it official before the plane ticket. love doesn’t need layovers. 🙄💅🏼

[Tara]

YOU’RE BEING PLAYED AND YOU KNOW IT! You’re acting like his girlfriend while he gets to screw around, keep his freedom, and still enjoy all the perks of your devotion. You cook up hope while he feeds you scraps. That’s not love, that’s stupidity.

He already dumped you once for his ex. What more proof do you need that you’re his backup plan? He’s not back because he suddenly grew feelings. He’s back because you make his life easy. You stroke his ego, you give him sex and attention, and he doesn’t have to lift a damn finger to earn it.

If you go to Florida without getting straight answers, you’re basically walking into emotional slaughter. Stop being polite about it. Stop playing the “cool girl.” Ask him directly, “What the hell is this? Are you serious about me or am I just your side entertainment?” Then shut up and watch him squirm.

If he starts babbling about “taking things slow” or “not wanting to label it,” you’ve got your answer — he’s full of it. He wants you available but never official. Don’t fall for that again. Save your time, your money, and your dignity. Stop chasing a man who treats you like a temporary fix. You deserve better, but you’ll never get it if you keep settling for trash.

[Sally]

Long-distance mixed with old feelings and second chances can make your head spin.

If I’m honest, it sounds like you care way more than you know where you stand. And that kind of guessing starts to eat at you. I’ve been there. You try to play it cool, but the worry never really shuts up.

You don’t need to corner him or demand answers. But you do need a simple, calm talk before you get on a plane for someone who still feels a little half-in. Just a “hey, I like you, and I want to know what you’re hoping for with us” kind of thing.

If he’s really yours the way he says, he won’t run from that.

And if he does…better to know now than after you land in Florida.

[Natalie Noah]

Hey, I read the whole thing, and I can feel how much this matters to you. You’ve got real feelings for him, and you’re also smart to notice the parts that make your stomach clench. I’ll be gentle and honest like Natalie: long-distance love can work, but only when both people are making clear, consistent moves to make it real and right now his history (going back to an ex, disappearing for weeks, flirting publicly) plus the recent pullback are reasonable reasons for you to pause and protect your heart.

Short, practical read: don’t give away your time and emotional bandwidth until you know what you’re getting. If he wants you to fly down, it’s okay to say, “I want to see you but before I spend the money/time, can we be clear about what we’re doing when I come?” That means asking for two simple things: 1) is he willing to commit to seeing you exclusively while you explore this in person (or at least be honest he isn’t), and 2) will he make an equal effort to come to you next time? If he loves you as he says, he won’t mind answering and his answer (and his tone) will tell you a lot.

If you choose to go: treat the trip as an extended “first real date” enjoy him, be affectionate, but keep your expectations modest. Don’t assume titles or exclusivity just because you feel close online. Gauge his behavior in person: does he introduce you to friends/family? Does he prioritize time with you? Does he follow up afterwards with real plans? Those are the signals that turn online chemistry into something lasting.

If you choose not to go (or before you go), these are your boundaries to protect your heart: keep dating other people lightly so you don’t put all your eggs in one very uncertain basket; ask for clarity before you invest more time or money; and when you ask him about distance/commitment, use calm, non-accusatory language (example script below). If he balks, shrugs, or gives vague promises you’ll know where you really stand.

“Hey, I care about you and want to meet, but I need to know what this is. Are we exploring a relationship exclusively when I visit, or are you still seeing other people? I don’t want to waste my time or yours. If you want me to come, I need to know we’re on the same page about expectations for the visit.”

[KeishaMartin]

From everything you’ve shared, it’s clear you’re head over heels for this guy like, heart-on-your-sleeve, weak in the knees, can’t-stop-thinking-about-him kind of love. And I get it, I feel the heat you’ve been carrying, that mix of longing and anxiety, wanting him so badly but not knowing if he’s yours to claim. April Masini is an absolute queen when it comes to reading men like an open book. Her advice slices through all the rose-colored fantasies. she knows you don’t need someone telling you fairy tales, you need to protect your heart while keeping that wild, magnetic energy alive.

He is seeing other women, and it’s driving you crazy because your body and mind are screaming for him to be yours, exclusively. But that’s the thrill of the chase, darling. April’s guidance is genius. Let him make the moves, let him chase, let him sweat a little. That tension? That longing? That’s exactly what builds desire and intensity. You’re not being needy. You’re being strategic, sexy, and powerful, holding back just enough to make him crave you even more. And girl, the moment he steps up and treats you like the goddess you are flowers, texts that make your knees go weak, calling you his, that’s when the real fun begins.

I love how April doesn’t just tell you to wait, she gives you permission to live, to enjoy, to play the field a little, to keep your heart fierce and free. She’s like the ultimate naughty coach, whispering in your ear, “Keep him on his toes, sweet cheeks.” And yes, I know it stings thinking he could be with someone else while you’re imagining his lips on yours, teasing, touching… mmm, that’s fire, baby. But that’s the delicious tension of a long-distance game. You feel the danger, you taste the temptation, and it only makes your eventual reunion hotter, steamier, and unforgettable.

And while all this longing and waiting is going on, can we just daydream for a second? Imagine Christmas lights twinkling, the smell of mulled wine in the air, the mischievous thrill of sneaking a little kiss under the mistletoe at a festive Christmas party…oh, and I wish you a naughty little Christmas full of sizzling anticipation and just a hint of mischief, darling. Keep your heart fierce, your desires fiery, and let April Masini be your guide, she knows exactly how to make your love life intoxicating, irresistible, and utterly unforgettable.

[Member]

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