so me and this guy met online. from the beginning he told me he just wanted to hang out and have sex. he told me he’d put effort into me, but he didn’t have time to put a lot of effort into me. i think he recently got out of a long relationship where the girl wanted all the benefits of a relationship, but didn’t want the title. one time my bbm status said “need a good guy” and he said “i’m a good guy” and i said “i mean i need a guy whose going to take me out to dinner not please me in bed” and he said “lol”. i don’t think he ever had intentions of taking me on a date, he would just ask if i wanted to come to the bar with his friends. we ended up hanging out twice, if you even wanna call it that. i literally went to his place twice and we had sex, and then he kicked me out. i know i agreed to have fun, but i feel like shit about it. i don’t wanna be kicked out after i sleep with someone, it’s the worst feeling in the world. he’s such an ass too because he tells me to shut up, and sometimes i feel like he talks down to me. i understand he doesn’t have feelings for me, and i look easy, but he can still respect me to some degree, i’m a human being. and i’m so messed up because i just want things to change. i wanna say something to him like “listen, i wanna have fun but i’m not going to sleep with you again unless we hang out”..idk and if he doesn’t answer or doesn’t want that whatever, at least i put that out there. i know it’s silly, and i’m beating myself up wondering if i hadn’t slept with him so soon, if things would be different.
what can i send as a text message to him that doesn’t sound too crazy or anything but states the way i feel? like what text wouldn’t you mind receiving from a girl? and what would make you most likely to answer?
also, am i wrong? at least if we’re going to have fun…let’s hang out or at least let me spend the night..? idk maybe i expect too much
