[MarkFriser]

Hi April, I’m back with another question 🙂

So, im going to college with this girl, we rarely see each other, maybe once a week, we don’t know each other either. One day i just came to her after class and asked her to go on a drink with me, she said sure. Well, we had a nice talk, the usual stuff. She said that boys often call her out and that I’m the only one she gone out with (when i asked why? to provoke a bit, she said because i got a “very positive vibe” ) . She also mentioned that she broke up with her boyfriend 5 months ago (they were together 4 years) and that its definitely over (i thought that might be a hint for me that she is single). Well, that was pretty much it, and she told me that we must go again and that she is buying me a drink. One week later, we went on that drink, but we went to a park. She was acting very shy, she couldn’t look me in the eyes she was just starring in the floor, sometimes she did gave me a look but very shortly. I told her that i see that she is a bit uncomfortable and i asked why. She said that she is scared cause she likes me. But after saying that, 2 seconds later she added: “i mean, like a person”. Then she said something like boys don’t believe in women/men friendship. Trying to avoid the friendzone i saw coming, i said i don’t believe in it either, and then we talked about it, but she didn’t seem disappointed when i said that. And at one point i made clear that ill take her the first chance that i get (i wasn’t that direct but she got the point). Now the thing is, i think i saw her with her boyfriend (not the old one), it was pretty far away but i think i saw them kissing each other but maybe half a second, pretty cold actually… Now, she never mentioned him, if i didn’t saw that i would never have known, on a few occasions i tried to get some info on him but she avoids every possible thing about him, and she never said a word about him. But she didn’t say she hasn’t a boyfriend either… Facebook? Not a single picture, no relationship status, checked all her friends (I’m crazy i know) none have pictures with her.

We are going on a date tomorrow, and I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do..
Whats going on here? D;

[April Masini, your AskApril]

She’s probably playing the field and hasn’t committed to anyone yet. The two of you are just beginning dating — usually the first three months of dating someone are when you decide if this is a person you want to continue seeing and someone you’d like to be monogamous with.

Get to know her further as you continue to date her, and you’ll have a better idea of what’s going on in her life — and how you feel about her! Relax, pay attention and give the process it’s due course! 😀

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[MarkFriser]

A little update,
She canceled the date (as I thought she would) saying that they had classes on Saturday and that we will have to go another time, cause she cant make it this time. Well i checked that info (I have a friend that goes to the same class) and it is all true. But, I kinda thought that if you care you would spare some time. My girl friend told me that she is maybe playing hard to get and that I should contact her. She doesn’t look to me like she is that type of girl (but what do i know..) and i thought maybe its her time to call out, or is it? Tomorrow we have class for the last time this year.
Should I quit?
If you ask yourself why i care much about this, She is one of the rare girls i found attractive in all ways.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Give it one more try and ask her out again. If she cancels or says no,[i] then[/i] it’s time to move on. But I’d give her the benefit of the doubt this once. 😀

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[MarkFriser]

Well we went for a coffee today, after class, and she’s coming to my place for dinner Friday night.
But she asked is it “just dinner”? I asked why is she so scared, and then she said some friendship stuff again.

Sigh…. ? 😕

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Sounds like she’s only interested in friendship. 😕

It’s good that you gave it a shot — if you didn’t try, you’ll never know! 😉

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