[jessicaxkaye18]

i met this guy on an online dating site a few months ago. we had spoken for about a month before we actually hung out. from the beginning he told me his intentions were to hang out and have sex with me. i was looking for fun as well, but a relationship would be nice. he was straightforward with his intentions, and he even told me he’d put some work into it but he didn’t have time to make a whole lot of effort. so i went to hang out with him one night and we ended up sleeping together, which was fine. but i went home feeling so insecure, that the sex was bad, that i wasn’t attractive, all these things. he hits me up all the time now just at 2am or when he’s drunk to have sex, which i expect. i keep beating myself up though because i keep thinking if i didn’t sleep with him right away, maybe things could have been different. but then again, he told me his intentions from the beginning. but before we slept together he would actually ask me to go to the bar with him and his friends (not that that’s a date) but he was willing to hang out and now it’s just all about sex. i know i did it to myself, but did i have any chance with this guy? or were his intentions not gonna change? and now he hits me up all the time but i don’t know if he’s genuinely attracted to me or i’m just easy and a last resort until someone else comes along? i don’t know what to think. i even had my bbm status that said “need a good guy” and he bbmed me saying “i am” and i said “i need a good guy that’s going to take me out to dinner, not please me in bed.” and he said “lol”

what do you think about this whole thing? i guess i just need some advice and some confidence boosters haha thank you for your time 🙂 i appreciate it.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think that this guy made it very clear that he was only looking for sex, and you agreed. Now you feel badly about what you agreed to. 😕 If you don’t want to be his booty call then just stop. It’s really that simple. He’s not going to stop — and he’s losing respect for you quickly because he knows you want more from him, and he’s being clear he’s not going to give it to you, so watching you squirm is amusing to him — but you can stop. You have control over your own behavior. 😉

He was never interested in you as anything more than what he advertised. You, however, were not as honest. 😕 You never advertised yourself as someone who wanted a relationship. Instead, you agreed to hang out. Hanging out is what guys do with women they meet on dating sites when they’re not really interested in having a committed relationship. Maybe you didn’t know that, so here’s the opportunity for you to steepen your learning curve. 😉

If you want to improve your self esteem then achieve a goal! That will do it in a heartbeat. Decide what you want and how to get it, then take the right path.

Read Think & Date Like A Man, a book I wrote for women who want to win the dating game by taking it seriously. You’ll learn a lot, and while some of it may seem simple to you, I guarantee that implementing the tips and advice will change your life drastically. 😀 You can buy it on the websites for Barnes & Noble and Amazon or on this site here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url].

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