[steelers_love43]

During November of last year I met this guy in the military. When we went on our first date, he had told me that he did not want to get seriously involved because there was a possibility of him getting stationed in another country, so I took it as it was. I still wanted to get to know him so we kept going on date after date. Before I knew it he was more to me than a boyfriend, but we we were like best friends too. He is always pushing me to better myself and always encourages my schooling.

In march, we found out that he was going to be stationed in Germany for 3-5 years. We talked about it and decided to end it when he left but still keep in touch with each other. He left for the whole month of May to his hometown to visit his friends and family before he left for Germany. Every day he was in his hometown, we Skyped and talked all of the time, like he never even left. He had to come back to the base in my hometown for one night before he went to Germany. We spent the whole night together, he took me to a nice dinner and a movie after. He got us a hotel room and we spent our quality time together. During this quality time, he told me that he had fell in love with me. Well, I told him I felt the same. Then we talked about continue dating and taking it day by day and see where we go from there because we could not just be friends.

Two weeks after being in Germany, he was deployed to Afghanistan. We were doing fine (or so I thought) for a while, we still talked everyday and Skyped when ever we got the chance too. Three weeks ago, he told me that it was too stressful being in a relationship while deployed, so we broke up. His reasons are understandable, I want him to focus on staying safe while he is there. Some of the things he has told me: he still wants to see me when he comes to my home town for training (even though he wont be here long before he has to go back) He was informed that there is a possibility he will be back for good in the beginning of 2014 (not a for sure thing) There is always a chance for us to rekindle what we had when he comes back for good. He wont be in Germany to look for a new life or to find a wife, he is there to work. And finally, I would have went to Germany with him if we had been together longer than 6 months before he left.

Here comes the confusing part to me. We still talk EVERY DAY since we have broken up. Granted, we don’t talk as much as we used to, but still enough to leave me to think that he doesn’t want to completely give up. Please help me! I have never felt like this for someone and I just don’t want to give that up. He knows I am going to wait on him, and yes, I am willing to wait as long as needed. I see this time as a time to focus on getting my life together and being financially stable without the help of anyone. What is he feeling? Does he want me to wait, or does he just want to be friends? Also, I talk to him mom almost everyday, and she is a GREAT person, she is rooting for us to be together.

[AskApril Masini]

He’s in Afghanistan in the military with his life on the line every day, in a strange country, doing a very important job. He doesn’t want to make a commitment right now. I’m sure he loves having you there for him, and waiting for him. But he’s not going to get into “the talk” while he’s deployed, and he’s already made his feelings to you clear. This is a very difficult situation for him, and you have to decide whether or not you’re going to wait, or be there for him when he gets back. This isn’t simple or you would have already figured it out for yourself. 😉

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[steelers_love43]

So how about this? I have a friend on my Facebook (my brother’s best friend) that I have known for about 10 years, he is just a good family friend. This friend of mine likes everyone’s status'(when I say every status, I literally mean EVERY status), including mine. My ex messaged me today and asked if I had moved on because “I have been doing a lot better and I have been talking to him less and less.” I told him that I have been doing better because it has been over 3 weeks since we have broke up, and I have this understanding that we cannot be together at this moment in time, but there is a possibility of a future for us. Then he brings up the friend on my Facebook. His exact words were “I just think its funny now that were not together this guy blows you up.” I tried to explain to him that there is nothing going on between us and that we are just friends. Is there anything I can do to show him that I am completely invested in him and no one else? I did tell him that I do still love him and I am still waiting on him… He didn’t say anything after that except for “well I’m glad your getting out of the house and doing things. I’m off to bed, I’m on standby.” 🙄

[AskApril Masini]

[quote] Is there anything I can do to show him that I am completely invested in him and no one else?[/quote]

Since you’ve broken up with him, that’s probably a bad idea. 😳 You can’t have it both ways.

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