Whatever is that he is thinking, changing his mind about, or figuring out, the bottom line is that the two of you are apart for the summer. I trust you’re in college and that you’ll see each other again in three months, but for now, there’s little chance of a date, let alone a relationship, over the summer.
You’re trying to find some remnant of a relationship to cling to, so you’re stirring up trouble. My advice is to allow yourself to be sad that you’re not going to see him for the summer, and accept that the relationship is not solid enough to endure a summer where you both don’t date other people. This is the nature of college relationships. The summer is a time apart for many couples, and if you’ve only been “hooking up” for a few months before you separated, there isn’t enough there to give you relationship security.
Stop worrying about what he’s thinking. You’re setting a trap for him and yourself by going there. Instead, try and have a great summer for yourself, and if you meet guys during the summer you are interested in dating, then go for it. But let go of the idea that your several month hook up from college is anything but a casual, on campus thing.
I know this can be painful, but I trust you can work through this, knowing what I’ve told you is true.
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