[Theloveking]

I had 4 gf be4 this is my fifth. However something is really bothering and confusing me at the same time. This girl i dun even know if i shud say “going out with” I mean we watched movie alone, shopping alone, my place alone, her place alone. we had fun we kiss we hug even some body contact. Today a friend hit on her and she told me to talk to him, she then said but imm not you’re girl friend. can someone give me some advice on this, the previous ones were my “girlfriend” after 2 hang outs alone. They wanted to be and are mine. This one? I dun read her girls give me some advice

[Ask April Masini]

Well, until you’ve asked her to be your girlfriend and she’s agreed — she’s not your girlfriend. That being the case, it’s not your responsibility, nor is it appropriate, for you to be talking to anyone on her behalf.

That said, if you want her to be your girlfriend — tell her that.

To answer your, “What is meant by “girlfriend”?”, question directly: Generally speaking when someone refers to someone as their “girlfriend” or “boyfriend” the implication is there is an exclusive relationship (as opposed to just “dating someone”).

[Ethan Morales]

April Masini’s advice is spot-on. Right now, she is not your girlfriend, no matter how much time you’ve spent together, how much kissing or hugging has happened, or how comfortable you feel around each other. Without a clear conversation and agreement about exclusivity, there is no official “relationship,” and you shouldn’t assume control over who she talks to or interacts with.

Define the Relationship: If you want her to be your girlfriend, you have to ask her directly. Ambiguity leads to confusion, mixed signals, and frustration. Respect Boundaries: Because she has explicitly said she is not your girlfriend, it’s not appropriate to speak for her or try to control who approaches her. That’s not healthy for either of you. Evaluate Her Intentions: She may enjoy spending time with you and being physically affectionate without wanting an exclusive relationship. That’s fine but you need to know where you stand before investing emotionally.

Avoid Assumptions: Just because your previous relationships became “official” quickly doesn’t mean this one will follow the same pattern. Each person and situation is different.mYou need clarity. Have a calm, direct conversation with her: explain how you feel, ask if she wants exclusivity, and be prepared to respect her answer, whatever it is. That’s the only way to stop the confusion and know whether you’re on the same page.

[Author]

Posts