[CONFUSED PLEASE HELP]

I have been living with a guy for a little over a year now.He came in 1 day said his boss told him he should marry me ,after that he seemed to get distant.Then about 3 weeks later we had a argument he left and went back to his house .I seen him about 5 days later and i asked what he was doing if he was wanting to end the relationship or what ..he gets mad over that so i left and came home .i sent him a message and told him i wasnt going to call him if he wanted to see me he knew were i was at. he replied that he was sorry for getting angry and that he feels that i pressure him! that he has been feeling smothered lately and was just trying to air out! well the following day he sends me a few text messages just asking general questions like what i was doin and so on.
never heard from him again until the next sunday .then we chatted on computer for 3 hours .i asked him then if he was thru with the relationship .if he was wanting someone else or what ..he replied he just needed some time to hisself ..that it was me time !!!but before we ended our conversation he tells me he loves me ..again no more communication until that friday he calls wanting to come get his truck …he comes in at first sits across the room then gets up and sits next to me and puts his arm around me …when the truck was loaded and ready to go he gave me a kiss told me he loved me and he would call me that was 5 days ago !!!he has been airing out for 4 weeks now!!!!! i don’t want to pressure him but i need to know something …he left all his other belongings here ..what should i do ?????
CONFUSED PLEASE HELP
i dont know if it helps to know but 2 years ago he lost his grandmother who raised him and he was engaged also and at the time of her death he caught his fiance cheating with his friend…

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Your boyfriend is in the process of moving out without being very clear about it. The pressure he’s feeling from his boss and from you about getting married, is only pressure because it’s pressing him towards something he doesn’t want to do. If he wanted to marry you, and his boss told him it would be a good idea to marry you, he’d certainly take the advice as encouragement, not pressure.

Pay attention to your boyfriend’s actions, not his words. That way you’ll see he’s backing out of the relationship, and he doesn’t have the grace to do it one fell swoop.

You’ve already asked him over and over if he’s breaking up with you and while his words are confusing, his actions are clearly implying that he is.

You need to be the one to take care of yourself at this point because he’s not doing it. He’s taking care of him. I think you can do better than the situation you’re in, so I would advise hastening that break up, and getting back out there to find Mr. Right.

[Member]

Posts