[Anonymous]

Dear April,

I’m 22, and I’ve never been in any sort of relationship. I am definitely attracted to men, but when they begin to flirt with me, or show interest of any kind, I become disgusted with them and my attraction to them is broken. I’ve only been on one date, which I was very uncomfortable during, and when he kissed me at the end, I felt dirty. I didn’t say anything because in the back of my mind, I knew he hadn’t done anything wrong. But still, I declined to go on another date with him, even though he was determined to take me out again. But after he had given up and stopped his advances, I was totally attracted to him again. Why does the happen? It’s like that with every guy.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not a psychiatrist or a psychologist, but it sounds like you have some background history that is keeping you from enjoying healthy male company and is going to challenge your ability to be in a healthy relationship. You need to dig deep within yourself and figure out why you’re only interested in a man who rejects you and not any who are interested in you enough to show you in societally normal and healthy ways.

This is a question for you and only you to answer. Until you do, you’re going to be stuck at this point.

[Member]

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