[thebiglimp]

hi april, thank you in advance for your once again insightful reply.

i met this girl on tinder for a one night stand, sex is incredible, turns into two, three night stands. i wanna make it more permanent, a relationship, so i ask her out, she refuses, we still meet for you-know-what, then on the fifth and the last time, i let it be known in so many words that i will not see her again unless we go on a date. once again she refuses, letting me know that this is pure tinder/sex thing and she has other guys lined up. but somehow we get emotional in the end of the night, and as i leave, she starts crying. sad, genuine tears. i comfort her, assuring her that she can trust me.

so we go on a date the next week, planning to spend the whole day together but she overreacts on little things i say, acting pissed off all day, and after dinner, tells me to go home. we barely had any communication that day, her just overreacting and ignoring me, while still spending time together for 6 hours… we now only text briefly, and she avoids the question of next date.

the girl definitely has an abandonment issues, and i’d like to know why she behaved that way during the date, and why she cried.

[thebiglimp]

here are some factors that confuse me even more

-she had at least two guys i know of, lined up for short term dating thing. she’d tell me she had dinner with this guy, cuddled with that guy, ect. these i know for truth. yet she cries at little old me when i ask her for a date, the same kind of thing?

-she did text me after ditching me that night that she was afraid of love. but given the circumstances, and the fact it was but a text, i still find it hard to believe she was telling the truth. i mean she acts like i’m dirt then sends me that kind of dramatic comment?

i still would like to win her over if i can. she barely keeps contact with me now, often times replying with a picture instead of text. i know she sometimes takes them on the spot so i’d think it would be just as much work as typing…

[AskApril Masini]

I want to answer your posts…. but I need you to first repost these two with the original string of posts you started on this site here: . I’d love to respond, but it’s very helpful to see all your posts in one place. I’ll look out for the re-post and will answer your questions there, when you do.

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