[toooldforthis]

So this guy and I have had eyes for each other for a couple years now, but I’ve been in a relationship so nothing ever happened with it. We’re both 21 now and almost a month ago we started talking a lot again. After about a week we hung out that Friday and talked for a long time and hooked up; we had a great time together. We hung out the next night, and he introduced me to some of his friends. For about a week before that weekend we were texting and snap-chatting nonstop. I was still in a relationship at the time but very unhappy, and he knew that. He told me all this stuff about how much he liked me and would like to date me if my situation changed. On the Monday after all of this, we were talking and he was talking about me coming to stay with him. He ended up never responding that nigh and hasn’t talked to me since. I’ve texted him a couple times and nothing. He hasn’t even opened my snaps, but I know he hasn’t been snapping anyone else. We had unofficial plans for him to come stay at my house over Easter weekend, and he didn’t even bother to cancel. I work with a family member of his and she said he was super in to me and kept talking about me, etc. She also said he wasn’t the kind of guy to do this. I know he’s been dealing with a lot of stuff with his family and himself and is super quiet and not very confident in himself. I have also broken up with my boyfriend since then. But it’s been over a week since I’ve heard from him. I don’t understand how he can go from being so into be to being so distant. Is it over? Or is there a chance something else is going on, and I’m just over thinking.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It’s one of two things. Either he’s got some crisis going on in his life, and and when it’s over he’ll contact you. Or… that was it. He’s met someone else, or gotten back together with someone from his past, or he’s not that into you. But when a guy hooks up with you and ghosts you, there’s a reason. My advice is to try and focus on being single, since you’re newly so, and just have fun, play the field and try to be independent. If he comes back and asks for a date without explanation, accept with caution. If he doesn’t, it was what it was.

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