[ally21]

There’s this guy who works at my local Starbucks.

I went there about 6months ago and when I had made my order he said I was well manned, I didn’t think any thing of it so just said thanks.
About a month or 2 past and I went again one time and he said it again. I was bit shocked and didn’t know how to respond so just said thank you again.

I though he was just being friendly as most of the staff there always ask me how I am when they serve me

But since he said that he’s been staring at me, started off about 10secs every so often. But in past 2-3 month, when I’ve been going he seems to stare at me for about 30-50secs quite often. Then a few time his male workmates were there and he stared at me then turn to them and they said something to him and he answered back/laugh at the same time (Like they were teasing/paying him out about something), then he stared at me again, and they sort of stare as well.

I went there about a 1.5 weeks ago and he acted like he didn’t know me/was just a normal customer.

I went there last Saturday night and he was really friendly talking to me and stared at me from time to time

I went their last nigh he was making the coffees with this other girl, the other girl spoke to me and ask how I was, and he completely ignored like he didn’t know me/didn’t exist.
It was really busy so he didn’t have time to stop and stare so I couldn’t work out if he was just having a bad day or just doesn’t like me any more

But about 30mins later this other girl came in, not sure if she was a friend of his or a regular customer, but she went up and he spoke to her and was really nice/friendly to. Don’t think it was his girlfriend as 30mins after that another girl came and he spoke to her and was really nice.

Why is he playing me hot and cold? Is he shy, as he seemed really confident around those other girls and his workmates?

I do like him just not sure if he likes me back

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I’m not sure how old you are, or how old he is, but generally, if a guy likes you, and wants to date you, he’ll ask you out. It’s really that simple. Most guys want to feel that they’re chasing something they have a chance of catching — which means, he’s looking for some sign that you’re interested in him! 😉 Small talk, flirting, smiling at him — these are all ways for you to let him know you’re receptive. 😉

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[ally21]

Thanks, were both late teens. So he does like me, I just need to be more confident and show him signs that I like him to. Then he will ask me out.
Also I’m going 1.5h away to uni in feb so I don’t have long.
Should I keep that quite for now, or would that be a good thing to bring so it lets him know he doesn’t have long to ask me out.

Also it shows I have too replays on my post but I only see one when I click on it

[Ask April Masini]

You can mention that you’re going away to college when you chat with him if it comes up in small talk, which it probably will. 😉

As for the posts, if you saw the number two, that was one for your post, and one for my reply. You’ll see a number that correlates with the number of posts for the topic you started. 😉

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[ally21]

Thanks for the great info, glad to know that my thoughts were right and he does like me.

[Ask April Masini]

You’re very welcome! 😀

[ally21]

This guy has been working at my local starbucks for about 2years, has always seemed very nice/friendly saying hi how are you when ever he served me.

Went about 6months ago and he made a comment saying I was well manned. Didn’t really know how to respond so just thanks.
Then about a month or 2 later he said it again, I was a bit shocked so just said thanks again.

But ever since then he has been staring at me, started off about 10secs the first few weeks then increased to about 20-40secs.

I only notice cuz I would look up form my drink/phone and he would be staring my why way, I would look back down then look up in about 30secs and he would still be staring. I sometimes stared back for a few secs but most times look back down straight away.

Also when he stares at me, he stares at me like I’m the only one around.

Then sometimes when I go he will say hi how are you/how has your day been. Then other times he will completely ignore me like I don’t even exist.

I went there tonight it was quite when I arrived I went up to order and he was serving. He just said hi so I just said hi back and told him my order and paid.

I think of things to say/plan what I’m going to say when I get there. But as soon as I go up to the counter I get a bit/nervous shaky around him and freeze up when it comes to talking. But if he asks me how I am I can answer back.

When he just said hi was that my queue to ask how he was.
Or is he not talking to me because he doesn’t like me any more, or does he think I don’t like him back so has given up.

Also I was sat facing a way from him so couldn’t see if he was staring
But a bit later on I went back up to get some water and when he served me he was smiling at me/looked happy to seem me again.

He could just of being happy about something that had just been said, but it did feel a bit like he had just been talking about me to someone or was thinking about me.

I really like him.

Is it to late to show/tell him I still like him.

If not what are some ways I can tell/show him I like him, without directly saying I like you would you like to to go on a date.

Also we do know each others names, and he does seem like a nice person.

I know it’s part of working at Starbucks to be friendly but he just seems a bit more friendly/different around me than other customers, and someone who was just being friendly would not stare at you and you only for that long.

Also I don’t sit there at staring at him he always seems to be staring at me when ever I look up form my drink
ally21

[ally21]

This guy has been working at my local starbucks for about 2years, has always seemed very nice/friendly saying hi how are you when ever he served me.

Went about 6months ago and he made a comment saying I was well manned. Didn’t really know how to respond so just thanks.
Then about a month or 2 later he said it again, I was a bit shocked so just said thanks again.

But ever since then he has been staring at me, started off about 10secs the first few weeks then increased to about 20-40secs.

I only notice cuz I would look up form my drink/phone and he would be staring my why way, I would look back down then look up in about 30secs and he would still be staring. I sometimes stared back for a few secs but most times look back down straight away.

Also when he stares at me, he stares at me like I’m the only one around.

Then sometimes when I go he will say hi how are you/how has your day been. Then other times he will completely ignore me like I don’t even exist.

I went there tonight it was quite when I arrived I went up to order and he was serving. He just said hi so I just said hi back and told him my order and paid.

I think of things to say/plan what I’m going to say when I get there. But as soon as I go up to the counter I get a bit/nervous shaky around him and freeze up when it comes to talking. But if he asks me how I am I can answer back.

When he just said hi was that my queue to ask how he was.
Or is he not talking to me because he doesn’t like me any more, or does he think I don’t like him back so has given up.

Also I was sat facing a way from him so couldn’t see if he was staring
But a bit later on I went back up to get some water and when he served me he was smiling at me/looked happy to seem me again.

He could just of being happy about something that had just been said, but it did feel a bit like he had just been talking about me to someone or was thinking about me.

I really like him.

Is it to late to show/tell him I still like him.

If not what are some ways I can tell/show him I like him, without directly saying I like you would you like to to go on a date.

Also we do know each others names, and he does seem like a nice person.

I know it’s part of working at Starbucks to be friendly but he just seems a bit more friendly/different around me than other customers, and someone who was just being friendly would not stare at you and you only for that long.

Also I don’t sit there at staring at him he always seems to be staring at me when ever I look up form my drink

[Ask April Masini]

Here’s the advice I gave you about a month ago for this guy:

[quote] Most guys want to feel that they’re chasing something they have a chance of catching — which means, he’s looking for some sign that you’re interested in him! Small talk, flirting, smiling at him — these are all ways for you to let him know you’re receptive. [/quote]

Did you follow it? If you do, he’ll have a much better idea that you like him and are receptive and interested in him than if you do nothing. 😉

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[ally21]

One week I was sat their on my laptop watching my fav tv show supernatural, when he walk past to clear tables. They recently got some lamps for the tables so turned round to me and my parents and ask what we though of them, he was standing behind me so could see everything I was doing. I just carried on watching tv, while my parents spoke to him for about 2-3mins.
This is the first time he’s spoke to them, does this mean anything or was he just been friendly.

Later that night I went to the toilet, and as I was just about to go into the women’s he came out the mens and ask if me if I liked supernatural. I told him it was my fav show and he said it was his to and then had a 1min chat about it with me. (This is the most we’ve ever talked)

Then ever since then when ever I go and order he always talks to me about supernatural. Also his stares seem to have got a lot longer.
I also went last night haven’t been in a week and he remembered parts of my order and also ask me about my uni course.

Does he like me. If so why hasn’t he ask me out yet. As he seems like a very confident/talkative person around his other workmates/customers and other girls who come in that are friends.

I know people say that if a guy wants to be with you he would of ask you by now. But if he didn’t like me why would he still keep staring at me.

[Ask April Masini]

He likes you enough to talk to you, but not enough to ask you out. 😉 Are you flirting with him?

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[ally21]

Sort of, obviously not enough to make him realise that I like him. As I don’t know to much about him, could I compliment him about his customers services.
Then when he stares should I hold the stare for a few secs instead of turning away quickly.
Not very good with the whole flirting thing is there anything else I should be doing/saying when I talk to him.

[Ask April Masini]

Flirting is an art, and it’s very effective. It’s body language, and that smile you give him with your eyes, and your mouth. It’s dressing in a way that catches his attention — and holds it. Complimenting him on his work is okay, but complimenting him on the way he moves or his muscles or how strong he is or how handsome he is — those are the things that will make him think you’re enticing. 😉

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[ally21]

He done all the signs that he likes me, like staring smiling/gazing at me for more about 20-40secs. (I only notice because I look up from my drink/talking and he’ll be staring right at me, and I know he’s staring at me because sometimes I can be the only one sat their if it’s late so I know he’s not staring at one else)
He also made 2 compliments that I was a polite person, always ask me how I am/how my day is and found that we have some fav tv shows in common so talk about, when ever he serves me.

I sometimes stares back/ask about his day/how he and talk about the tv shows

He’s also made a point of remember my order even to point of last night when I went he saw me and my family sit down and 30secs later he comes out with some cups of water and my free wifi passes, check’s that we all want our usually drinks, and says i’ll go and get the other staff to start making them for you. Then I went into about 1min later to pay and he had them on a tray ready for me like he was even going to brink them out to my table for me.

When usally when you go you have to go up and order and wait/queue for your coffee as it’s a take away coffee shop. I’ve never see him do before/with any other customer.
I am quite a regular and a few other regulars were their when I went and he made them all come up and order/queue for their coffee.

It’s almost like he was trying to impress me/parents or something.

He seems quite confident around other girls/his workmates.
He talks to other girls that come in and sometimes sits with them on his break/after shift but he never stares/flirts with them only me. He almost seems act differently when I’m around.

I know people say that he’s properly just a good/friendly customer services person, but all of his workmates are friendly, but they never go above and beyond like he does.

He’s been doing all the signs for almost a year but has still not asked me out.
Why has he not asked me out/will he ever ask me out.

I do like him.

I’m really shy, so don’t want to be the one to ask him out/don’t want to ask in case he is being friendly, but doing all those things seems like he’s being a bit over friendly to me.

Also I know that he single and has been for about 3 years

Were both late teens/left school so around the same age

What other signs can I give him to show him that I do like him too/to get him to ask me out.

Also is it true that if a guy wants to be with you he will do what ever it takes to be with you

[Ask April Masini]

[quote]He’s been doing all the signs for almost a year but has still not asked me out. Why has he not asked me out/will he ever ask me out.[/quote]

He may not be interested in you. My advice is to flirt with him, but also to move on with your life. You’re spending a lot of energy on this guy — who hasn’t asked you out in about a year of flirting. 😕

[quote]Also is it true that if a guy wants to be with you he will do what ever it takes to be with you.[/quote]

No. Not every guy will do whatever it takes — but the worthwhile ones, will! 😉

[quote]What other signs can I give him to show him that I do like him too/to get him to ask me out.[/quote]

Since I’ve already suggested you flirt with him, and that doesn’t seem to be working, why don’t you buy the book I wrote for women who want to win with men, Think & Date Like A Man: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. It’s only $8.99 and it’s an automatic downloading book so you can read it over the weekend! 😀

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