[Daisy12]

Problem?:
Me and my BF have been together for 2.5 years. We started dating in high school. Everything was great until senior year when he became a bit distant. On the last week of our senior year he decided to break up with me, because he doesn’t want a relationship going into college (I though he was thinking about this for a month, he said he only thought about it the night before). He told other people he didn’t have feelings for me, but after some talking he still did and we got back together. Fast forward- we just finished our first year of college, we saw each other once a month, sent each other letters, it wasn’t that bad. The only problem I had was he wouldn’t contact me as much as I did him, but I assumed he was busy with college. Now that’s college is over and we’re home we were happy to see each other. We had relations, we celebrated my birthday, it was great to be home. We were planning on having a picnic but he put it off for a week, the same week he became distant again. I was worried so I text and called more often. He told me nothing was wrong and said he loved me. The next week, he comes to my house and tells me that he’s not in love with me as I am with him, he said he wants me to move on, and that we shouldn’t talk for a couple of weeks. He said if I want to be his friend I should call him. He said he’s been thinking about it for a week or two. When I asked if there was someone else, he looked to the left and said no. I cried, he let me hold my hand, but he felt he shouldn’t be here. He said he cares for me and wants me to be happy. When I told him I loved him he said,” ok” and that there was nothing I can do to change his mind right now.

– The next few days he ignores me like the plague when we have a group outing
– A few days later I initiate contact and we meet, he pretty much told me the same thing..
– Next few days I decide to contact again telling him all my feelings, he then calls me after telling me he doesn’t want to talk.
– Now he’s all like “I’ll let you know when I feel like talking” =/
– I’ve been sending him “Do you remember texts…”

Right now, I feel like I shouldn’t talk to him. I’m going to keep my space and try to work on myself. Though at the same time I feel I should wait it out. People tell me to move on, but I feel like I should give him his space and go from there. I’m don’t want to move on…not yet anyway…I have a strong intuition that he will come back to me… =/ Though if he does ask me back I know I won’t take him back automatically.. Do you think he’ll come back what should I do? Please help 🙁

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think your friends are right. It’s time for you to move on because he’s been very clear with you that he doesn’t want to date you any more. I know it’s hard to accept because he was probably your first or second real boyfriend and you were together for more than two years, but lots of times people go away to college and don’t want to be tied down to high school sweethearts. They want to experiment and move on. Your boyfriend really falls into this category. I know you’re hanging onto old feelings and memories, but it’s going to be in your best interest to let go and find someone else. 😳

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[Daisy12]

So, I don’t follow my intuition. I feel so right about it.. and I understand I should try to move on but I still believe there is something left…just something..

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You can always follow your intuition and see what happens. I think you’re going to spend a lot of time wondering why he’s not coming back; if he’s coming back for good; what he’s doing, etc….. when you could be investing energy in yourself and even a new relationship. But everybody has to learn their own lessons in their own time, and by all means, if you think following your intuition is the right thing to do, then you should. 😉

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