[DevosGirl]

I’ve been dating a wonderful guy for 2.5 years now and aside from a few spats we’ve had a good relationship. He treats me well and gives me plenty of affection and attention. But the problem is we can only see each other when he walks to my house and I sneak out to see him because my mom does not approve of us dating. Also, his phone recently messed up and he now uses his mom’s phone, problem is he can only text during the week until 10-10:30pm and actually talk on the phone on the weekends. So our communication is already limited but now he has recently turned old enough to get a job. He is planning to have several interviews and says they may involve him working late. My concern is that he won’t have time to deal with a girlfriend, he assures me he will make time for me no matter what but I’m still a bit nervous about the idea? How do I handle this?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are you both?

[DevosGirl]

I am 15. He is 16

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You sound very mature for your age. 🙂 But because you are both teenagers, your options are limited by your family situations. On the other hand, it sounds like your 16 year old boyfriend is taking steps towards independence and responsibility by interviewing for some jobs, and while you’re nervous about his having time for you after family, school and work, I think you should really just wait and see. I know that’s hard to do, but it’s your best bet here. He’s working to better himself, and that’s ultimately going to be better for both of you. There’s going to be discomfort in your anxiety about the future, but learning to accept discomfort and not having to react every time you’re uncomfortable is a wonderful life skill.

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[DevosGirl]

Thank you for your reply, April, and I’ve always been mature for my age lol 🙂 Sometimes just a little bit too much even 😀 . But as far as the situation goes, I have tried my best to keep a positive outlook on things such as you said to do and I’ve took all those things into consideration, I’m just the type of person that analyzes a situation far too deep. I think of all the possible bad things that could happen and my main concern is that the physical distance will create distance in our relationship.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The time away from you [i]may[/i] create a distance between the two of you in your relationship, but if you really want to overanalyze…. 😆 consider that sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonder. He may also grow more focused on his work and see his future with you more clearly as a result. In other words, there is no insurance for the future. You can analyze, overanalyze and hyper analyze, but it’s not going to change what happens. Being in your head isn’t always a good thing, and you have to balance it with just having fun, living your life and relaxing.

Let me know how it goes, and let me know if you need any more help.

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[DevosGirl]

Thank you, April. You have made me feel quite a bit better about the situation. 😀 Your advice has helped my outlook on the situation quite a bit 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re welcome! 😀

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