[Sassyclassy73]

Hi April,

Thanks for the advice…I WILL NOT GET A SPY…just a CRAZY thought 🙂 . I will take it day by day…and withing a couple of months make a decision…and keep my side of the street clean (beleive me is not a problem to do so because I am still very much in love with my husband 😐 ). I will keep you posted.

Truly,
Sassyclassy73

[Sassyclassy73]

Hi April,

Your advice as before is great and I truly appreciate it!!! I do fear he may try “dating” while we are apart…and wont tell me 😥 …I will give myself a limit of how long I could wait 😕 …for now I am taking things a day at a time and not drive myself nuts thinking about what, whom, or with he may be doing, this is all very difficult 🙁 . I know for sure like you said in a previous post that I will “keep my side of the street clean”…I had the CRAZY idea of putting a spy on him for a month to see if he is keeping his end of the deal…but this is a random thought, and costly. But I do agree with you that this “trial” seperation is needed…and it will either make our relationship or break it.

THANK YOU once again… I will followup with you in due time if any further changes occur.

Bless you
Sassyclassy73

[Sassyclassy73]

Hi April,

There has been a turn of events…my husband and I have decided to do a trial seperation…he found an apartment and we will be taking things a day at a time. There have been a lot of damage done, and trust has to be rebuilt. The reason for him leaving the house and being apart is to TRULY see if either of us wants to continue in this marriage without having the other constantly on their back…this was one of the most difficult decisions I have had to make in my life, but IT IS the last resort. To be honest only God and a miracle will turn this situation around. We have agreed that none of us will be seeing anyone else…but just focus on us as individuals and as a couple. I know people feel this is not the best thing to do (trial seperation), but we have tried therapy in the past with no avail…and like you said in the previous post…he has trust issues and other demons he must battle. What is your view on this.

Thank you,
Sassyclassy73

[Sassyclassy73]

Once again April MANY THANKS!!! Your words are extremely appreciated.

Truly,
Sassyclassy73

[Sassyclassy73]

Hi April,

WOW! Thank you so much for the reply. My close friends have said the same thing…just needed a professional to clarify the fact that it is HIS problem. The thing is …is that HE himself says it now…that HE is the one with the issue, because I am a GREAT woman and have all the qualities he ever wanted in a woman, just that he is stuck on the whole situation 😥 He has allso always admited to having trust issues…so you hit that one on the head as well. I know IF this marriage/relationship makes it, it will be an uphill battle, and maybe a miracle from God. I am HURTFULLY and PAINFULLY preparing myself to be a single woman again…I am inlove with him, but also realize that if one of us is stagnant and not happy we can’t ever move forward 😳

I appreciate your advice…and THANK YOU…God bless

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