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    ConfidentWannabe
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    [quote=”NeilPearson”]With work relationships you have to be a little careful. Do you know your work policies for dating coworkers? A lot of places frown on it. [/quote]

    They couldn’t care less. I know of at least 2 couples here.

    I envy you guys in the US, UK and such. You can approach each other almost anywhere at anytime, without the fear of being inconvenient. It’s all a matter of liking/not liking for you.

    Here, unfortunately, unless you’re really skilled with pickup techniques, and use them in a club or such, you have to make do with whomever you have mutual friends/acquaintances, and had a chance to spend time with, preferably with other people close by, before you can even think of asking them out on a one-on-one meeting.

    Obviously, I believe that if I WAS good in manouvering through a conversational obstacle course, I could attempt an approach here. But I can’t lie to myself and think I am. I’m 36 and, so far, I’ve had one GF, and that has happened for a reason. My voice changes, I stutter, my limbs freeze, my posture becomes twisted, etc.

    I’m 99,9999% sure that if I just send an email saying “I’m so-and-so from training! Wanna meet for coffee?” the response will be a sound No! I know we have to be ready for rejection, that it’s a part of the game. But when I’m already sure of it, somehow it hurts more! Like I will be telling myself why did I go for something that was obviously gonna be a failure. So, I guess I won’t be doing it. Still, I’ll continue watching the forum for future tips, and hopefully I’ll be back at some point in the future.

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