[philusaf]

Sorry, I don’t see anything in there saying how to know for sure if she’s interested in more. I did see a lot in there about “more fish in the sea” and stuff like that, though. I haven’t had an interest in dating in several years…until the last few months with this girl. If it doesn’t happen with her, I’ll lose interest in dating altogether again. I told myself years ago, when I quit on dating, that it would take quite an exceptional girl for me to even think about dating again. I know a lot of fantastic girls…but she’s the only one who, when we get a chance to talk, whether it be at or away from where she works, makes me feel like we’re the only ones there…like I’m the luckiest man in the world. She basically blew me away with how she’s made me feel…and I love her for that and want nothing more than to do what I can to make her happy as well

[philusaf]

lol…already got it…didn’t answer my question, though…lol..do you think it sounds like she might want more?
There’ve been times I thought she might be hinting that she did…but my history has made it hard to believe that…plus…I’m 15 years older than her…not making a lot…only in average shape….she’s drop dead gorgeous…only thing I have in my favor is how well we get along…well enough that she opens up to me more than she does most of her friends and allows herself to be more vulnerable with me

[philusaf]

stopped by the bar today after getting my paperwork done…back to the usual treatment…big smile, big hugs…she opened up to me about some of what was going on….I’m sure there’s more but it was getting busy in the bar and it would be tough to talk too much in depth in there, anyway…hopefully she and I will be able to get together for lunch/dinner next weekend

[philusaf]

lol….I know it was cancelled…they graduated…it was a reference point is all
As far as her not wanting to be friends with me, I’m not sure what you mean…do you mean it sounds like she wants more?
A few days before she grew distant, I got a job offer….part-time doing what I love….and a potential stepping stone towards something full-time….and in the city…where I’d be closer to her. She was the 1st person I told about it…and she seemed even more excited about it than I was. Well, there were some paperwork delays as I’m the 1st new hire with the company after a takeover and I just got the news yesterday that the paperwork was all in..I texted her about it and she seemed pretty excited about it. She couldn’t do anything as far as dinner last night or anything but I told her I’d probably stop by the bar after I picked up my paperwork today for a bit. Even though we probably wouldn’t be able to talk much, even a little bit was pretty good.
I know I hold some place in her heart…part of me wonders if there can be something more and if today goes well and we can get together soon for lunch or dinner, I’m hoping to make things closer between us…whether it makes us better friends or more than friends…I guess we’ll have to see

[philusaf]

Actually, I would like to see it develop into a relationship…but I had a habit of pushing too hard with other friends that I had an interest in dating…took a while to restore the friendship with the one woman…but the other is pretty much beyond repair. I don’t want that to happen with this girl…if it develops into a relationship, I’d be ecstatic…she makes me feel more alive than I ever have…but on that, I don’t wanna paint myself into a corner and be despondent if it doesn’t turn into a relationship.
I’m reminded of a “Saved By The Bell” episode after Kelly and Zach had broken up…it took him acting like a jerk to realize it but as he told her “I’d rather have you as a friend than not at all”…and that’s how I feel about her

[philusaf]

She had told me things would be better soon late last week…part of me wonders how she knows that…or if she’s just saying it to make me feel better? Before all this happened, she was just as excited to see me as I was to see her…starting to think maybe she was feeling something stronger for me and her mom told her to put some space between us to see if she still feels that way after a period of time, given our age difference…and maybe to see if after that time, if I would show that I wanted more

[philusaf]

well, we started off as friends…it wasn’t until the last few months that I got to thinking I’d like more. She’s going through a rough patch of some sort that she’s not up to talking to me about just yet and ending the friendship in hopes that we can start over as something more isn’t something I can do.
As far as pursuing someone else, that wouldn’t be an option even if I didn’t have feelings for her…I had given up on dating years ago…developing feelings for this girl took me by surprise…I wasn’t hoping to meet someone…she just blew me away and stole my heart.

[philusaf]

The big thing I’ve been afraid of, as far as why I haven’t been more aggressive in asking her out, is pushing too hard and losing her as a friend. There are other women I’ve been friends with in the past that I had wanted to date and I think I pushed too hard with them. I’m still good friends with one of them but for a while, it was really rough. With the other, our friendship was probably damaged beyond repair. I don’t want that to happen with this girl who, over the past several months, has made me feel more alive than I ever have, I think. If all we ever are is friends, I can live with it…but this distance between us right now is getting to be too much to bear…it’s hard to sleep these days and even though she said things will be better soon, there’s a part of me that wonders if she said that to make me feel better…it worked for a few hours.

[Member]

Posts