Hi April,
He’s 27 and I’m 26. The last argument was when I called him after work (we had plans to hang out) but he had just woken up at his friends house (sundays he likes to drink and play poker with a friend) so he just woke up, and he didn’t seem all that excited to hang out. When I said “so are we meeting up tonight?” he replied “I still have to figure out what’s going on tonight”. That made it seem like he didn’t want to hang out wtih me and wanted to see what else was there to do. I got annoyed and he could tell and then he said he’d call me when he got back home. During his trip home, I was texting him saying not to make me feel stupid for wanting to hang out with him when we made plans. He doesn’t respond much to confrontation and likes to just move on from them. I send him how sad it made me and that his communication was not healthy and how I was growing resentment.
It’s been 8 days of NC and i’m confused and angry that my ex bf of 10 months hasn’t tried to contact me when he broke up with me in a text message. He doesn’t seem like the type to just leave it at that and have the decency to at least call or e-mail. I know he’s no longer responsible for the way I feel, but a text message?
I’ll paraphrase some of the things he said when he broke up with me:
“I don’t want to fight anymore or at all. I can’t keep up with these arguments, I don’t think this can last”
“Don’t chase something I’m never going to give you (love). I have to move on and let you find the one person who can”
“I’m sorry, we’re done. I know you can never forgive me.”
“We had lots of fun and you will always have a place in my heart. Goodbye”
All through text message
