I think it’s the former. When we’re together, we have a great time. He’s all over me. We laugh. We goof off. We cuddle on the couch and watch a movie. Goofing off comes easy to him, but he doesn’t like to really talk, like about work, family, etc. He’ll bring it up occasionally, but doesn’t stay there long. I guess that’s a guy thing, compartmentalizing his life. So I guess it’s just normal, to him at least, to not want to communicate when he’s gone. How do I reward him for keeping in touch?
I should also mention that he and I are in two completely different places in life, trying to make this work. I’m 21, just recently moved out of my mom’s house, going to school and working full time. He is my first boyfriend, first date, first kiss. He is 35, divorced with two kids, ages 2 and 4. They currently live with their mom 1,000 mi away and he is fighting for custody. He lives 4 hrs away from me and commutes here every week for work. He is a soldier in the guard, so sometimes he’s sent to other parts of the state for a week or two.
We didnt realize the age difference when we met. He thought I was older, and I thought he was younger. It wasn’t until a few dates in that we realized it, and by then we were really enjoying each other’s company and decided to see what would happen. We don’t even notice the age difference, just enjoy our time together. But on stuff like this, If think he gets frustrated because I’m still trying to learn how to be the girlfriend.
He deploys to Afghanistan next year, so I’d really like for us to learn how to communicate long distance. A deployment can make or break a relationship, and I want for us to make it through.
